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1. jeff says

   November 25, 2017 at 6:38 am

   I met my love we was together for a little over 2 years. In the beginning our relationship was great for a while then thing start Fall Apart. I was taking care of her paying for a car she wanted paying for other things she was not working at the time I met her. I started to feel a little overwhelmed was not getting much help for her. She was getting extremely jealous always checking my phone and always looking for something to find. I guess i have done something to make feel that way. When I was married to my first love I had 3 kids my ex-wife starts to interfere little bit into my life and sometimes I start to need her help when I’m down and out and cannot do good for myself I guess my girlfriend at a time got a little at ease with it you couldn’t take it no more I tried to stop talking to my ex-wife and leaving it alone but sometimes issues and said come up and I had to sometimes I had to do it behind my girlfriend’s back because of her jealousy and she doesn’t understand I guess I could have done something a little bit more to satisfy her needs and I failed .she dont like my ex-wife cause a lot of problems between them too and my kids and her kids. Must of all I feel that maybe I was to blame how she feels. We had a vary bad breakup every night we getting in a argument about something we have this one argument and that was the last straw I was kicked out of her apartment and onto the street. I live in my car for months. Still kept contact with her come to a stop. I love her so much I put her name on my right side of my neck. Lost everything my clothes and furniture. I lost her and several months has passed well 6 months all together. Just over two week ago she text me out of no where that was want ed to meet I said yes. She told that she now marry and move to Connecticut has a new job. She marry her ex-boyfriend. Ever sicne we meet we been spending time together. At last over two weeks getting intimate with each other and feeling the love for us once again but I’m afraid that she is married that’s not going to come back to me. She tells me to work on my life and we’ll keep seeing each other and when the time is right she will come to me and divorce him it’s like it’s all crazy I’m so confused because I do love her. I know she loves me now she married to this man that gives her everything takes care of her the way I used to loves her as much as I do. I’m afraid I’m going to lose at the end cuz we did have a hard break up and I hurt her so much that the pain is still there. I want to do what’s right I fix everything with her but just knowing when she’s with me and being intimate with me and when she has to go back. I start to wonder she starts right back to her life back to the man she’s with. trying to be in a relationship she’s in now and waiting for me to fix everything. Well if i fix everything will my ex come back to me or she is just confused as much as I am. Is it fair what I’m doing and then the man she with goes to the military and she wants to spend time with me when he’s gone she wants reignite the fire we had. I am going for it but I’m so confused and scared because I feel like I’m going to be the one losing her at the end and I want to try to fix out relationship and everything and never hurt her again. I feel good when I’m with her. I know I love her deeply when i am with her and she feels it too. what should I do continue my love with her and do everything I can to get her back on my side or giving up and walk away and leave it alone which I do not want to so my heart lays here wondering what to do next.

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2. craig says

   October 26, 2017 at 1:13 pm

   hi
   id like some advice i have been divorced from my ex wife for 3 years now i have been thinking of her a lot if i go shopping our song comes on the intercom if i go out and have the radio on a song that reminds me of her comes on ,
   i am basically asking if i am looking for reasons to speak to her or i would like to try again with her i am not very good at doing this
   i have sent her 12 red roses and a letter saying basically please give me a second chance and could i date her again i havent herd anything off her but i said if you are not interested please text me and say no thank you
   it has been a month and i havent heard a thing off her
   please give me some advice

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3. henry says

   October 23, 2017 at 4:42 pm

   So I had been dating this girl for 2 years of high school. She is a senior in high school now and I’m a freshman in college. We went through the summer and decided we were going to try dating. I noticed in the beginning of the summer that she had started too snapchat this boy. I didn’t think much of it. about a month into college I came back home to visit her. I hadn’t been giving her a ton of attention but we had been talking a lot. When I came home I figured out she had plans with her friends and this guy was asking her to homecoming. She immediately told me that they were just friends and she loved me. I began to get a little sketched out. this is when our relationship began to go for the worst. I began to be emotionally abusive sometimes and I’m really disappointed in myself for doing this. I asked her to stop talking to him multiple times. she said she didn’t want to be controlled which is reasonable. I agreed and let her continue to talk to him. This caused our relationship to get more rocky. She called me one night out of the blue and was crying and I was so confused. Now I think its because she knew the relationship was ending and felt guilty. I went home a week later and spent three days with her. Those three days were great for both her and i. Then homecoming came. I let her have homecoming night to herself because I trusted her. I woke up in the morning and received a text that we needed to talk. I asked her if everything was ok and she said she didn’t know. She called me and said she was emotionally drained and couldn’t deal with the pressure. She still loved me. My friend then texted his ex and found out she had spent the whole night talking to him. We broke up that day and I drove home to talk to her. We talking in the car and she told me she loved me but not in the way she used to love me. She said she does not want a serious relationship. I told her I don’t care to be in a relationship with her as long as she told that other guy that she didn’t like him and just wanted to be friends. She said no. She kept trying to get me to compromise. she said she wants everything that we had but she doesn’t want to have sex because she knows I won’t be able to move on and she feels guilty. I told her that I loved her a lot but Im not doing that because I feel like I’m being used. So we ended it. The next day I was passing a store and I saw them walking together along with their friends. after that I went to the school soccer game in which she plays and he was waiting for her just as I used to do. I feel betrayed but I feel like this is just a rebound relationship. Ive gone no contact but it took her a week to take down her profile picture of us. The day we broke up I received a text from her sister saying she loved me and more and I responded and stayed strong. The next day I received a similar message. I have been no contact with her for a little over 3 weeks. I received a text from her mom late at night trying to check up on me. I don’t know if this was my ex but I was surprised because I never txt her mother even though I know she really cares for me. I am still going no contact and I don’t intend on ever speaking to her again. I guess I’m on this blog because I’m heartbroken broken and wondering if she even cares or if this new guy is giving her everything she wants. Is she over me. Will she ever txt me. Is she just faking it. Will she become intimate with this guy. Will she regret it. Is it a rebound relationship

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4. Anonymous says

   August 23, 2017 at 2:50 pm

   So my relationship just recently ended we’ve been together for 10 years I was15 she was 18 it was 2007 October 30th when we first started to date then not to long after she went to Texas to visit some family she got sick while she was there and when she went to the doctor while she was there she found out she was pregnant and being so young I got scared so she stayed in Texas for like a year I met my son when he was like 2 or 3 months old he was born September 2nd 2008 and things was good I loved her even more after r son but after while me being the youngest of me and her I still had some childish treats I get mad when I couldn’t get sex I didn’t appreciate a little things I played my game all the time never really helping her out or just being a adult when I needed to be well we was also staying with my parents for awhile we had r fights like everyone does but I never really got what she would be saying like I hear her but wouldn’t listen just end up doing what I said I wouldn’t do but every time she for give me and love me no less and we get back to a good place then we diced to have another kid because I wasn’t there for my first from the start and I felt very bad about that and so we felt like having a new baby so we can share that special experience together this time and it was amazing so we have to beautiful boys so then we still had r little fights I get jealous because she have guy friends I thought that they only want to be her friend to get with her so I accused her of wanting
   someone else because we didn’t have sex much anymore and I regret all that but being her she forgive me every time and keep on loving me then we got out on r own it was good but of course I still have my moments with jealousy not getting sex and picking childish fights and each time she give me hints that she couldn’t keep doing it this way anymore she felt underappreciated didn’t feel like she was getting any help physically or emotionally but I always promised I would change and do better and I would for a few weeks like you know clean around the house do the dishes just little things to show her I do care but then old habits I’d expect something in return like I’ll do the dishes she comes home from work and I just assumed that I supposed to get laid not thinking that she’s tired from a long day at work I just start to think that maybe I’m not attractive to her anymore that’s why she don’t want to sleep with me but that wasn’t the case she told me before that she doesn’t have the drive like she used to after the boys but in another argument where she gave me signs again I did what I always do I make promises then go back on my word so she started feeling like she wasn’t enough for me like I need it more but to me I was thinking I was the one that wasn’t enough for her but the whole time she just kept loving me and loving me and I just never caught on to the signs that she gave me trying to tell me that she’s getting too the point where it’s hurting too much and I needed a change I needed to change and I agree after Looking Back Now I was very childish and I’m working on that now we split like maybe a week or so ago now it wasn’t a bad split like it ended on good terms and we still talk every day we see each other every day but she told me that she doesn’t want to give me false hope but if there’s ever a chance for us again I have to grow up make changes to better myself and do it for myself not just for her and then maybe she said who knows we might be back together she told me she feels like she is all I’ve known she wants me to go out bmore social make friends and if I meet someone that I care about a lot don’t hold back but it still hurts because I feel like that I can do the changing for myself and for my boys but also now that I actually get what she meant from all the arguments that I sit down and remember every word and understand what really was being said Karen at this time now I appreciate it the little things I won’t say it’s completely too late because we’re friends and we’re trying to co-parent as best as we can for the boys but my feelings for her have only gotten stronger after learning when hurt I put her through all that time and how much she kept forgiving me and loving me but now I don’t know how she exactly feels anymore she told me she will always love me but as of right now she doesn’t have the same feelings as she wants did like she don’t need me to be there with her all the time she only needs our boys she only focusing on being a mother she said she has no intention of looking for someone else for there is no one else right now but she doesn’t want me to be sitting around missing her but it’s hard not to especially the days when I take the boys home and I’m not working that night and I’m all alone back at my parents house after 10 years but waking up next to someone being around that person it’s a big difference I feel lonely but it’s not the kind of lonely that I can just go out find someone have sex or something like that and it fixes it or where it numbs it I’ve actually haven’t had the desire for sex was anyone else and every time she brings the boys over in the morning to put the oldest on the bus I see her we talk we laugh together still but there’s always that feeling that I know we’re not together and when she walks away I feel like something is being taken from me and there’s times I just want to ask her if she ever miss me she told me before and she’s going to miss me it’s going to be a change but when we still see each other and I’m leaving or she walks off she doesn’t seem like she misses me too much she doesn’t say it like I have to her recently it’s like she’s not expressing those feelings if she’s having them she’s holding them in but we still have those moments where we talk get along and laugh and it’s always nice to see her beautiful eyes her beautiful smile and just seeing her makes a bad day a good day for me but we still have those moments where we talked get along and laugh and its always nice to see her beautiful eyes her beautiful smile and just seeing her makes a bad day a good day for me she told me that it isn’t something that can be fixed in a week or month it might take longer the wood I think but I need to make sure this is what I want which is her so she’s not saying outright that she’s done with me for good she’s just saying that there’s changes that I need to make for myself and I see now that I should have pay more attention two little things I realize now that little things can have a big impact when how you make someone feel sometimes like one thing we never really went out much neither one of us drive we live close to our jobs so we walk she’s 28 now I’m 25 and then when we did go out on our dates as we called them it be to like the movies or something but we always had to have someone take us so it was never really I felt and I regret that and there would be times where her friends would want her to come out and I get invited and I say no because I feel like she would pay them more attention then me yeah that’s a poor excuse I know and I don’t really have any friends but I never gave anyone a chance to be friends with me or give her friends a chance so I think that s going on being together just us or with some of her friends some of my friends could have made a difference maybe not solve all the problems but help with some of the little things like showing her that I can be social that I do care and cherish her and just be romantic sometimes but see now I’m only realizing all this now when it’s over with and I want nothing more than to be able to get one more shot to show her that I can change I’m going to change and I’m trying to change I’m growing up and I want to be more involved I want to go out on dates with just me and her I want to take her dancing because out of 10 years I’ve never once slow dance with her or anything like that I may have asked her to dirty dance for me a few times but that’s not something it’s romantic especially considering when I always had to start an argument for sex or something like that make her feel like she had to reward me or give it to me because it’s what I really want it that’s not something that I want to do anymore so basically the whole reason I’m sharing all this is I’m just curious to hear what people think like is there any possible chance that if I keep to my word this time and make the changes and not you know go tell her as soon as I think I made the change just let her notice it herself and just keep being loving friendly and showing her that I still do care but not trying to invade her space show her that I’m a good father I mean she’s told me I was a good father she never said I wasn’t but having kids you have to be a good father because that makes a difference to but just showing that I can be better then what I was showing her while we were together I hope every day that I will get that one chance again but like she said she doesn’t want to give me false hope because we don’t know what the future holds I could find someone I really care about or she can move on with someone she really cares about and I’m trying to come to terms with that trying to give her space but at the same time I’m not trying to lose touch even though I know we will always be in each other’s lives because we share kids together but I don’t want to just to be because we should kids together so we’re friends and like I said we still talk it may not be talk like dirty talk or romantic but just conversations about us about the boys and just different things but my biggest fear is that I’ll get you a good place where I feel like I made the changes and I’m ready to try my feelings for her are stronger than ever and I’m ready to see if we still have something there and she tells me she doesn’t feel the same she’s noticed that I’ve changed and it’s very positive change but she just doesn’t see me that way anymore she loves me still but just not that way that’s my biggest fear because I don’t know how long that we’re going to be apart or if we’re just going to be a part for good I don’t know she’s going to find someone else I don’t know if I’m going to find someone else but like I told her I’m sure right now of what I want and I don’t think it will change so I was just hoping for some advice some understanding like if anyone has it similar experience just what people thoughts are like do I deserve another chance with her or do I just don’t deserve anything I’ve had enough chances but not say everything I did wasn’t wrong I just didn’t realize I didn’t pay attention I wasn’t understanding but now I understand everything a lot better I got what I did wrong and I’m not saying me changing and getting her back I can fix everything I’ve done I can’t erase the feeling that I gave her by treating her that way permanently it won’t go away but I believe that if I got another shot I can do things better to where that pain can be put away and not affect her and we can create a bigger and better more loving relationship this time I feel like I understand her feelings for me and I understand my feelings for her more so I already feel like I’m growing I’m starting to see things from a man’s point of you instead of childs one of you I know 25 still young but there’s always a point where you realize what you’ve done the mistakes you’ve made and you know it’s time to change them so that don’t happen again even if it’s not with her so it wouldn’t happen with someone else but yeah thanks for reading all this and I appreciate any comments or advice or anything anyone has to say I just hope that my love for her Never Dies and hers 4 me Never Dies I just hope we just need a little space for a little while but the biggest thing about change you never know what the future holds oh and I like to say one more thing at all the bad stuff that I’ve said happened the arguments there were a lot of good moments so when you read this don’t forget that there was a lot of good moments we weren’t always fighting there was a lot of times or our love actually showed and we both seen that but yeah thanks for listening

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5. Lauren says

   December 29, 2016 at 9:49 am

   Hi I’d really like some advice,

   Me and my ex were together on and off 9 months. He ended things the first time after things had been going well, saying he didn’t want a relationship (he had been with a girl for 5 years and she had cheated on him) the second time he ended things he said it was me and him that didn’t work and the third and last time he ended things was over a very silly argument where I had gotten crazy because he cancelled on me with no apology or explanation. The whole relationship was full of mixed signals: he said he couldn’t give me any more than he was giving me but then he would also hang out with my friends and he got me a birthday present and got very jealous when other guys were interested in me.

   We are very similar: very stubborn and quite immature, we wouldn’t take anything seriously, always joking with each other. Our biggest problem was no communication as he is Greek and has been brought up to never talk about problems- we got back together for the third time without ever talking about our issues so of course we were going to fail.

   I tried to do no contact- I managed 3 weeks before sending a snapchat to him (before this had worked after 2 weeks and he’d reply to my snapchat) he didn’t reply and I then messaged him a few days later on Facebook to no reply. I’ve messaged and snap chatted him since but had no reply.

   He still has me on all social media and looks at every story I post on Instagram and snapchat but I’m so scared this is it forever this time. Especially as I think he’s dating a Greek girl now. I have been dating someone but he’s not the one.

   It’s silly I just have this feeling we are meant to be no matter how hard it has been. Do you think I have a chance or do you think that’s really it?

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   • Carey says

     August 12, 2017 at 8:25 am

     You ever hear the saying, “If you love something let it go,And if it loves you , It will come back to you!!
     You have to let it go babygirl!

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   • vimbai says

     August 30, 2017 at 10:19 am

     hi , i want to help you may darling , lam a lady as well and l hate to see other fellow ladies suffer in the hands of selfish men who claim to love them yet they don’t. Every small thing that a person does should indicate whats in their hearts ,the times when he broke up with you ,leaves your messages not replied , means that he says he loves you but the love and care for you is not in him and worse dating another person believe when someone has another girl too u can be sure he doesn’t love you ,it means you are not his all.l know its hard to leave someone you love and many times we don’t want to admit that they don’t love us the way we do but leave him find someone who loves you back and stop thinking or believing that you are meant to be together because that will not make you see the goodness in other people who actually love you and appreciate you.Love is the most amazing thing especially when its freely given and when its mutual, give yourself the chance to be loved like a queen, and l know letting go is so hard but its possible and its satisfying especially when you are leaving a person who is not worthy of you, go search your happiness my love you will find it no matter how hard it is, and one more vital thing always have a life of your own do your things, dream ,work towards your dreams, educate yourself and don’t be desperate for this guy or any guy ,the best always find the best

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   • cheeky says

     September 6, 2017 at 2:00 pm

     hi i can see that this is an old post but i am going through the exact same thing, very similar . he ended an on again off again relationship of four years through text messaging because he couldn’t handle seeing me cry. silly me i begged to just see him to sort it out but to no avail i was blocked on all forms of contact with him , he said what we had was too much work and that he gave me his all that there wasn’t anymore to give . i must admit coming into the relationship with him i was shy and scared of what was ahead didn’t know anything about being in a relationship and learnt as we went along still it had its patches , to me i think he was still holding on to his ex of 5 years she was in our lives because of him throughout the relationship which made me feel a little worthless they have a connection and here i was loving someone who at times was not there and he has had several partners before me , so he was more experienced in it all . oh i learnt the hard way with arguements but i stuck by him and wanted to learn and be with this awesome human bieng .

     now that it is finally over i still feel the yearn for him but i find that the on again off again made me strong .

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     • cheeky says

       September 6, 2017 at 2:04 pm

       even though we have no contact its been two weeks now he has said in one of his texts saying we will talk but when his good and ready. i hope by then i have focused on myself so if it happens and we speak again i will be ready . i dont feel like we broke up on bad terms other wise i feel something .

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6. Lagertha says

   September 24, 2016 at 6:04 pm

   My husband and I have been married for about 7 years now. We were happily married with three kids, a boy and two girls. few months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from him and a few weeks later I found out that my husband is seeing someone. He started coming home late from work, he hardly care about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes he goes out and doesn’t even come back home. I did all I could to rectify this problem, but all to no avail.

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   • Yolanda says

     January 6, 2018 at 10:41 pm

     I was with mine 12 he met a woman in Spain on the internet and decided to only remember arguments and nothing good now he’s leaving me I’m beyond stressed out I just wish he’d snap out of it he’s honestly considering moving to Spain to be with someone he’s never met

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     • Anonymous says

       July 29, 2018 at 10:42 pm

       Hi my ex partner of 20 years had numerous affairs on me I finally ended it when my children were 9\14 and 16 that was 15 years ago now you will get over him and I promise down the line he will want to come bk I was strong enough to say no even though I still loved him he will always have a place in my heart just as the father of my children and now we have 4 grandkids he himself has another 4children to 3 different woman bit honestly I can do what I want when I want and don’t have to answer to anyone even though I am in a new relationship let him go act like you don’t care even pack his clothes i promise he will return sometime down the Line hopefully you will be stron enough to turn him away as was i good look hun just concentrate on yourself that’s the main thing Xx

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     • Anonymous says

       July 29, 2018 at 10:42 pm

       Hi my ex partner of 20 years had numerous affairs on me I finally ended it when my children were 9\14 and 16 that was 15 years ago now you will get over him and I promise down the line he will want to come bk I was strong enough to say no even though I still loved him he will always have a place in my heart just as the father of my children and now we have 4 grandkids he himself has another 4children to 3 different woman bit honestly I can do what I want when I want and don’t have to answer to anyone even though I am in a new relationship let him go act like you don’t care even pack his clothes i promise he will return sometime down the Line hopefully you will be stron enough to turn him away as was i good look hun just concentrate on yourself that’s the main thing Xx

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7. Elisee says

   September 8, 2016 at 12:29 am

   Hello
   Please am confused ,here is my story that stopped me to fall in love again.I meet this man on early January 2015 and when we meet we felt in love instantly. He even proposed to me after some weeks, I was chock and surprise and asked him if he was Serious he said yes and I accepted and we started planning our wedding he even took me their house and presented me to his mum sisters aunty etc. I took it serious and we were to fix a day to come see my parents but within that same period of time he had to go back for work in another country,so he left me in contact with his family. We even plan to have a child which was even proposed by me ,he accepted and we both programmed my fertile period and organized my travelling to meet him. I was so so happy, we use two weeks to look for a child and within the time I was there he asked me if I feel like am pregnant ?I remain positive and said yes ,then he asked me if I have ever been pregnant? I said yes but I got rid of it because I was a student, his face changed and looked me bad ,I tried to bring peace the way I could but everything was vague. So I had to come back to my country waiting for the d-day to check if am pregnant and I check the text was negative, I couldn’t keep it for myself I had to share with him and when I told he started acting a type. And even told I have to learn how to live without him from there I realized we were breaking up. I tried to call send messages, even ask him if I could visit him to the country he is working, he refused I knew i lost him. And frankly speaking I have been calling he pick my calls but has never call if I didn’t call and when he call he will ask me who I’m and when write him he will read me but will never reply. I even spoke to his sister and friends, he still remains adamant toward me. After sometimes I even tried other relationship to see if it could help me forget of him ,but nothing and up till date I still think of him. And I don’t know what to do ,I still love him as it was my first love.

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   • Elisee says

     September 8, 2016 at 12:32 am

     And still want him in my life, I don’t know if it can be possible

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8. Tris says

   July 13, 2016 at 5:52 pm

   Was with my ex for 15 years we have a daughter. Never married. I left due to constantly arguing over money matters. It pushed me to meet someone who actually apreciated me because of that I just kinda pushed my ex away and never cares to listen to him or even try have conversation with him though we still were together and living together. .. I thought the other guy is what I wanted. Tired of all the fighting I finaly left him. It’s only been 6 months but I miss him we still talk obviously we have a kid .. but I feel like he is my missing puzzle piece. I want to work it but I can’t help to think maybe I’m just feeling this way because we were together for so long? Or I do still really love him

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   • Anonymous says

     September 27, 2016 at 10:39 pm

     Talk to him and tell him the truth! As that will go much further than lies! Try not to be to formal though! Sometimes we can think we want something else but after trying it for a bit we realise that it’s not what we wanted, and that ups and downs are all part of a relationship! It’s how we deal with the ups and downs that matter!

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   • J says

     June 6, 2017 at 2:49 pm

     It all comes down to communication. Have you guys ever sat down and a heart to heart conversation without interrupting each other? It’s very easy to try to prove your point but very hard to reach in the middle. From what you have said, he may very well be your missing piece of your life. After all 15 years is a very long time. Financial burdens can ruin relationships, but it’s up to both of you to come up with a solution.

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9. Isha says

   June 24, 2016 at 1:16 pm

   Hello Lisa;
   I am 24 years old. I am into relationship with a guy for about 6 years. We started when I was 18 years old and he was 21. We were in different colleges.
   In starting years it was really a good bonding like we are made for each other and going to be together forever. But the guys parents are against our relationship.

   Later after passing out from college ( almost after 3 years) he went for further study to Europe.
   It it became long distance relationship.
   Before going we had exchanged our phones. And so I came to know he was in relation with other girl for about few months whom he met on Facebook.

   So we had heated arguments bcz of that and I started doubting him and lost trust.
   Then in this 2 years we carried our long distance relationship by talking on call and doing video calls.
   Recently I had visited his place and we stayee together for 3 months. We had continuous fights and arguments. We didn’t had sex as we didn’t felt like having it.
   We tried but it didnt happend.

   After coming back to my place also we were in relation but we still had arguments and fights.
   And whenever we we had fights in last 2 years it was me who always use to say I don’t want this relation and want breakup. But he used come back and everything used to get normal.
   This time again I said the same during argument I doubted him; and we had breakup one and half month back.
   Before breakup I didn’t gave him time ,I didn’t talked with him much,nor did video calling nothing.
   I was attracted to someone else online.

   But after breakup I have lost myself and I am no more in touch with anyone. I pleaded; begged and everything I could do I did but this time he is not ready to give me a chance .

   I don’t want to breakup with him, I am working on my flaws and want to a good wife for him, and want to give happy ending to this relationship.

   In past one and half month we talk to each other as friend and nothing else ,he said If you can’t be friends then don’t call. Also when ever I am not online for more then a day or two he sends me “hi” and then normal chat what’s up and that’s it.
   On call when we talk as friends he shares what all things happened with him in that day or week.

   He said he no more have feelings for me even he had told me to get marry with someone else. He is no more jealous. Also he said I was addicted to you now am no more addicted. And I am not going to go back nor I see any future with you.

   I really want to take our relationship to good level and want to be together forever.
   I am ready to accept him as he is.
   I am praying for him to come back.
   Please help me out what shall I do to bring him back to my life and get back in relationship.

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   • Carey says

     August 12, 2017 at 8:32 am

     Your going to have to realize he doesn’t love you anymore.It’s the hardest thing to except.

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   • Carey says

     August 12, 2017 at 8:32 am

     Your going to have to realize he doesn’t love you anymore.It’s the hardest thing to except.

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10. Tk says

    March 4, 2016 at 4:55 pm

    Hi Louis I have tried to get my ex boyfriend back but all has been in vain. How can I get your book so that I see if I will make any step?

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11. Clayton says

    September 3, 2015 at 11:51 am

    I’m thinking about breaking up with my long distance girlfriend of 6 months. We met online. But recently she’s been acting cold and distant and barely saying anything to me. She’s been overall less affectionate, loving and caring when we talk. And then I found out that she’s still been in contact with her long distance ex the whole time of our relationship and I was never really a priority in her life. Those times she ignores my messages, she is most probably talking to him. I also found out that she may be getting engaged to him pretty soon, as there were photos of gifts from him on her Facebook (which I unfriended). I don’t know where the hell this leaves me. But I’ve been feeling depressed, I haven’t been sleeping well, haven’t been eating as much. I haven’t even been talking to her as much. I know I have to say goodbye to her, but this just hurts like hell after 6 months. She apologized and told me not to change my phone number or address in case she wants to get in touch again. I can’t take this pain anymore.

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    • Anonymous says

      January 3, 2016 at 9:18 pm

      I think you should ask her for the reasons she decided to leave and keep in touch with her ex maybe there where somethings you didn’t do right which made her to drift her attention from you to someone else…don’t be hard on yourself for any reason,don’t panic stay calm…if she decides not to stay then I bet you should move on and be happy with yourself

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    • Mayanak says

      May 5, 2017 at 2:10 pm

      I love my girl friend so much and she loves me also and we want to merry but the problem is that we are inter cast and she thinks that her pernts will not accept our relationship we are in same class 12th or she always say to that she love me but our relation ship can’t sucessfull i love him so much sir plzzz help me what should i do in this situation

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    • S.ballard says

      May 15, 2017 at 9:06 pm

      To get rid of your pain…go get laid… Because apparently she was having a twofer relationship.

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12. Gary says

    August 19, 2015 at 11:56 pm

    My now ex and I met on a dating website and initially talked for a few months on and off for awhile. Then we started to hangout and everything was going great, I asked her out she said yes we had amazing times together in the month and a half we dated. Both of us had been single for awhile and made sure that we were both emotionally ready to put ourselves in this position. When I told her that I felt really strongly about her she reciprocated these feelings and told me she was in love with me too and had been waiting to say it. I went on vacation recently for ten days to California, talking to her literally everyday non stop, with both texting and phone calls. She would tell me how much she missed me and how she loved me to death and we would talk through the night about our days, our pasts and where we were going from here. She even would break down and tell me how much she loves and how I’m amazing and that I am all she needs because she knows what an amazing guy I am for her. She was very sexual as well, telling me all sorts of things she would want to do to me when I come home and how she missed me so much.

    The day I got back there was all this pent up energy and we had previously discussed about sex in vivid detail, and I wanted to make sure with her that we were both ready which was very scary for both of us because of our relationship pasts. I got to her apartment and she was all over me bringing me into the bedroom and making out with me and taking off her clothes. In the end we didn’t have the time to have sex because her father was coming back to her apartment which she just got for school after moving out of her mother’s house. We were scheduled that day to go to a family cookout of hers that was down the street and proceeded to get ready to go. When we were there things were great I adored her family and I was so thankful that I had found someone who not only loved my family but I loved hers. She suddenly pulled me to the side and said to me in a quite exasperated tone that she felt that the relationship ” didn’t give her the intensity that she felt she would feel up to this point” and that she” trusts herself to know where her heart lies and that she felt it would be the best to tell me now because it was bothering her.”

    I was incredibly shocked, literally an hour before she was all over me and telling me how she couldn’t wait to have sex with me later that night. And an hour later she was in tears saying how sorry she was and how awful she felt to be breaking my heart, and proceeded to drive me home. Apart from feeling humiliated by being ushered away in front of her family I felt heartsick because it made no sense to me. She cried the whole way to my house telling me how sick she feels with what she’s just told me and everything and how she still loves me and cares for me but this is the best thing in the long run. She claimed that she wouldn’t blame me for hating her or never talking to me again and all that stuff that makes you feel even worse.

    Today we talked on the phone and I told her I understand her decision and I wish to god I had been given a chance to make things right and work through any self doubt she may have had because to be honest it didn’t line up with all the honesty and signals the entire week before and the day of. She told me that we both need time to heal and that she misses me too but she will always have love for me and care for me and that I should give her a week or so to get settled in at school before she contacts me again to see how we’re both doing.

    I feel absolutely devastated even though I know it will pass in time, but I miss her and I miss having her as my friend to talk to and tell about my day and wake up to with her texts and everything that us both feel safe. I just want some understanding and to know if there’s any chance of salvaging feelings.

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13. Kenny says

    August 16, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    So my ex broke up with me a month and a half ago after being together for a year and 5 months because she didn’t want to depend on me for her happiness, instead she wanted to make herself happy and she thought I should deserve something better… Lately we’ve been talking since my other crazy ex poped into the picture bad mouthing both of us and I saw a chance to find out more about what she was feeling at the moment.. She told me lately she’s been missing me but she’s been trying to hold back from that and that she’s been confused about what she wants.. She’s also afraid because she doesn’t want to lose me but at the same time she does and it’s all confusing her ever since we broke up.. I just want to know what can I do in a situation like this… I really love this girl and I want her to be happy as well.

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14. gillian says

    August 11, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    He’s ending the relationship..and I am really scared and frightened. We have been having problems for months now and I thought last night that we had sorted it all out, but all today he said he has been thinking that maybe it’s not for him and that he feels weird by whats gone on. He said that he doesn’t know where we are or where we are going and I told him to let me know soon even just a phone call to tell me.

    He said that he wouldn’t do it over the phone and I just know that he wants it to end. I am so confused because last night he said that now that he had me in his life, he always wanted me there and that he loved me and thought we had something really good and that he thought I wasn’t a quitter and now this?????

    I don’t want to phone him, I want him to have space and me too…but I am so confused…I know he is hurting but I am too…I am soooo scared of being alone so very scared of losing him because I enjoy being with him, enjoy what we do, our lifestyle our friends…i love him and all his faults…but I am so very very frightened…

    And I know people tell me there are more fish in the sea, but I dont want fish, I want a whale…he was my whale!!! I don’t want to try to find someone again, I am 32 and tired of it all…tired of being frightened and scared and tired of dating…I just want to be loved, and wanted…and to be happy,.,.its not fair, it really is totally unfair!!!!

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    • Anonymous says

      February 14, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      Hang in there try asking him whats wrong what made him feel that way if you really love him you could try to change for him if you think he’s worth it love is all about sacrifices. I love someone and honestly i made sacrifices far beyond imagination and i dont regret it not a single bit till today because i know im doing it to keep my lover beside me

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15. Lindsay says

    July 31, 2015 at 11:03 am

    I have been dating this guy for almost six months and our relationship was a long distance relationship. We were so happy even though we were miles apart, everything was ok. One day i sent him a good morning message like always but he didn’t reply. I got so worried and thought something had happened to him. I tried calling him but he wouldn’t take my calls. I was so worried that kept on calling and sending messages, for a he didn’t communicate with me. Then one day he sent me a message saying he was okay but he wanted to tell me something. He told me that he had slept with another girl and now the girl claims she is pregnant. I was so frustrated that I started asking a lot of questions. When I started asking questions he went all silent on me and told not to question him. I mean, i was his girlfriend and i had the right to know how that happened. He told me he loved me but he doesn’t want me asking questions. It was so painful and this situation was killing me inside. After some weeks i decided to end the relationship because I couldn’t take it anymore. I love him and i want him back but ever since I ended things we haven’t been talking to each other. I don’t know how to start any conversation with him, im the one who ended things.. Please help me, i really need him back

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    • Anonymous says

      August 7, 2015 at 9:53 am

      I’am sorry but trying to rekindle a relationship with an ex after he committed infidelity is like dancing with the devil. It never works out. I’ve never been cheated on, but I’ve seen my parents divorce in 2009 after one of my parents cheated on the other in 2002. This one member at my gym told me he finally broke up with his gf of 10 years and she cheated on him in 2010. I know it’s very hard to move on from somebody you love, but cheating is the definite ice breaker indicating that there’s really no point of even trying again cause if your bf loved you as much as you loved him, he wouldn’t have even done it in the first place. And you wanna date somebody who’s the father of a child from a casual relationship? You really don’t deserve that kinda baggage

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    • Anonymous says

      October 23, 2016 at 9:00 am

      I hope you’re okay. Please consider this, you didn’t end it. His sleeping with and evidently impregnating another woman was what ended it. His ghosting you was his way of hiding from you.

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16. Judy says

    July 25, 2015 at 3:37 am

    About a year ago, I went through a painful but expected divorce from a man I’d been with for almost seven years. I moved into my parents’ house with my 4-year-old daughter to get back on my feet and save some money.

    Back in January, I got on Tinder. I matched with a 23-year-old guy (I’m 27). He is from my city but moved three hours away, so we matched while he was visiting. We hung out when I was passing through his city and sparks flew, so we started seeing each other every other weekend, taking turns driving to each other’s cities. He told me he loved me first, asked to meet my family, etc. so I felt comfortable with where we were headed.

    His communication w/ me was never great, but I tolerated it. He’d forget to text for 1-2 days because of 12-hour shifts/video games/whatever, but he always seemed to be trying and getting better, so I waited it out. He had very little experience with relationships so I thought patience would be good.

    About a month ago, we had our first real fight, which showed me his communication shortcomings. He had been in Europe for a month w/ friends, so we didn’t see each other that whole time. When he came back, he told me he had to work his first weekend back. That weekend came and he was tagged on FB as being in my city. I texted him and called him out on it. He ignored my texts and eventually admitted that he had come up to my city to pick up a friend and go to another city 2 hours away for a concert, saying that he’d lied because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings or make me think he was blowing me off, since we had a visit planned for a few days later.

    We never talked about the situation and I figured I just had to get over it. Instead, I got anxious and the next couple weeks I struggled a lot but did not tell him about it. It came to a head on July 3. He sent me a normal text and I said something about “I’ve missed talking to you this week, would love to talk to/text you more ” I panicked a little bit–gut feeling/trust issues–when I didn’t have a reply by midday Saturday. I definitely overreacted and texted him wondering if he was disappearing on me/mad at me/whatever. No response so I called, no answer. Sent another message Sunday and one on Monday. No response.

    He kept me on Facebook, which hurt because I could see pics of him when he traveled to see family this past week. After reading on here, I deleted him so I wouldn’t have to see when he was online or anything.

    It’s been almost two weeks and I cannot stop thinking about him. I had NO closure and I had no idea this was coming. He told me he wanted to prove to me that not all men were like my ex-H, who was a pathological cheater/liar. I trusted him completely and since he never actually broke up with me, I keep hoping he’ll contact me.

    How do you move on from a breakup that never really happened? All I can think about is how much I love him, the good times I had visiting him, how easy it was to talk to him, and the hopes I had for our future. How does someone just disappear on someone they claim to love after SIX MONTHS? Will he ever contact me again? I feel like it was just a normal conversation but I pushed him away by freaking out Saturday. I so badly wish he would come back and we could try again.

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    • Christine says

      August 9, 2015 at 6:38 am

      Read ur story and I never reply to people’s shares. HOWEVER I need to tell you that have been dealing with the no closer, no contact, no break up nightmare. But I’m slowly learning that if my live in girl friend of 6&1/2 years could just disappear then anything is possible. I have moved back to my parents house and my 17 yr old son has finally stopped asking about her n her her 18 year old daughter that I helped raise since she was about 12 in grade school. He still refers to her as his sister when conversating. It’s been about 6 months since I have heard her voice and I still break down daily. I don’t want to nore will I ever understand what really happened and how someone could leave after all those years and plans we made for the future. So just remember that not everybody means, ( till the end of time) when they say (forever or always) I hope u deal with it better then I have but reality is 1/2 a year later my heart still struggles with out her.

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17. Nikhil says

    June 18, 2015 at 4:46 am

    We’ve been dating for six years. Six great years, and both of us are in our mid 20s. The first time we got together, it got way too intense, way too quickly, and she ended it; and then, a year later, fate pushed us together again. It was great, we were best friends, had tonnes of fun together. Moved cities so she could get her degree, and eventually moved 1000s of km to her home country. We were rock solid, and I really thought she was the one.

    Looking back on it, there were signs that things weren’t going right during the past few months; signs I did not interpret correctly, and that she didn’t communicate. The first problem is the country we are living in. It’s super small and our social life was poor. We spent 90% of our free time together, which is not good. We were making plans to move back to Europe this year and decided we would ride it out until I could get more experience at a really good job I landed. I was spending a lot of time at work, and she was not really occupying herself, and it seems, she became bored.

    Three weeks ago is when it came to a head. I found out that she had been texting a guy that she met on a work trip. I was on her phone and saw a text she wrote saying that she had feelings for him and did not know how long we would last. I confronted her, told her to decide what she wanted, and left our apartment. When I got back, she was clearly upset and kept saying sorry, that it did not mean anything and she was just trying to get a jolt of excitement. I had reservations, but forgave her, because she had never done anything like this in the past, and I have never had any reason to doubt her faithfulness. I put it down to this situation we were in: bored, working a lot and looking forward to moving home.

    Except, despite promising me she would not contact him again, she did. I found out a week ago that she had been secretly texting him behind my back and confronted her. Her excuse was that she knew I’d get mad, he was just a friend and she did not want to break off contact. Yeah, I know. To cut a long story short, she said she felt we were just too close and she needed space to figure out who she is and what she wants. That she feels she has never been fully independent, and wants to know that she can rely on herself. That she has never lived for herself, but for us, and that she doesn’t know who she is. I think it was just a way of letting me down softly.

    The thing is, I love this girl to bits. She was my first, I was hers, its that kind of story. Admittedly, my first reactions was pathetic, but I was unprepared. Since then, I have tried to go NC, but its nigh on impossible because I live in an apartment owned by her family, and it does not make sense to get my own place as I will now be leaving the country soon, after I tie up some loose ends at my workplace. She has in the meantime moved to her parent’s place, which is really close by.

    Her mum has told me that she misses me and cries. Her friends also say that she’s still “very much in love” with me, but just needs some time alone. This puts me in precarious position. Even though I have lost trust, I would be willing to give her a second chance to prove her feelings, because I believe we’re good together and love dies hard. She was the love of my life and the time we spent together was always happy. People have just been completely shocked to hear of what’s happened.

    So, to the present moment. I am not initiating contact with her, but I do reply to her texts. I have seen her a few times, and she acts really bashful. I asked her why and she said she felt awkward, but she did add that she really misses me. I tried to take her hand, to probe a bit, but she slipped away fast. Now, she texted me asking if I want to hang out and watch TV tomorrow, and I accepted, but now I have mixed feelings about this. She might be feeling lonely and just wants to hang out as friends, and I’m not willing to be friend zoned.

    Should I cancel it? Say I’m too tired or something? Or should I see where it goes, keep it light, and see if she has anything to say? I’m at a crossroads. A part of me doesn’t want to give up, because I love her deeply and we are good together, but another part is pissed off that she lied, and is ready to move on, however hard it may be. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

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18. ben says

    June 15, 2015 at 10:42 am

    I can’t believe I am still the way I am. My days are so hazy and I am not happy at all. I go to gym and work out and look great but it don’t mean one god damn thing. Nothing makes me happy at all. I laugh and joke and put on a show
    But deep down I’m dying for her. Her memories always haunts me daily.

    Every single little thing gets me down. I have been on multiple dates and what not but I don’t want them or anyone. She was going to be my wife and I thought deep in my soul that she was the one after all these years of struggling relationships , I thought she was my soul mate.

    It has been almost 7 months and it feels like it Happened last week. It’s so fresh in my mind all the time. Instantly putting me in a sad emotional state. Everyone says time will heal and all that stuff but I don’t think in my case. She was my whole world and my bestest friend I have ever had. I miss hugging her and everything about her. I can’t believe she’s gone

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    • will says

      November 8, 2015 at 12:15 pm

      Same…

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    • Carol says

      January 30, 2018 at 8:29 pm

      Were you able to get over her? How did your story end?

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19. Linda says

    June 8, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    o basically, I was with my ex a year we split because I moved away to study. He started to get parboid and was not happy. We stopped speaking for a while then we met up twice over christmas not for long. The signals were mixed and we fell out. He later said he was to scared to get hurt again and was in a bad place. We kept falling out and making up for a good year till I got with someone else. At the time I shouldn’t have because I was still in love with my ex. My ex said he realised even more he couldn’t loose me and that shook him up seeif me with someone else. Me and the guy had a brake and I met my ex a few times he said he still loves me when he was drunk and then he wanted to try again. I left it because I was confused and continued to date the other guy. We always kept contact on and off. After a year i split with the other guy and my ex was there for me throughout he came up the day after and looked after me. I came back home for summer we got things back on track and started a relationship. Two days later we fell out over what was nothing at all because he didn’t seem that fussed if I came over I got angery and lashed out I have big insecurities and he smokes weed which I don’t like. I didn’t say anything that was hurtful or out of line. But he made out I did and said he didn’t know what he wanted, he wouldn’t meet up to talk face to face about the situation and said he didn’t know if he could trust me. So I said to drop my stuff off and I had nothing left to say the last I herd was a text saying he dropped my stuff off. We haven’t spoken since I refuse to text first I had apoligies said I wanted it so bad and he just said I never try’ed to fix things even though I asked to meet up and apologised. I know I should just get on and move on but I don’t want to I love this guy and these 2 years apart have made me realise this. I hate not talking im happy the way I am
    But I also want to have him in my life. I don’t know what to do

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20. Pam says

    May 23, 2015 at 11:16 pm

    We met in 2013 as I worked part time as a bartender. I had a lot of guys flirting with me while he was an introvert, not good -looking and no one really knew anything about him. I had a bf at that time.
    Well, he asked me out, I accepted and told him I broke up with my bf. It turned out he is very smart, confident but also (his words) f*cked up.
    We were going out the whole summer (sex wasnt involved till after three months) and it felt great.
    One night he told me he is not good in relationships and he hurts people. Then he dropped another hint that my ex bf was a better choice and that I should walk away from him As fast as I can.

    Sept 2013
    He asked my best friend to help him buy me a bday present. I got some nice earrings.
    OCT-NOV 2013
    I got upset over a girl he used to like and is still friends with her so after all the fights we saw each other only 3 times in two months. Also, I wasnt sure if we were in a relationship or not.
    DEC 2013
    We started seeing each other again and he tried harder (opened up more about his life, his past), got me a Christmas present.
    JAN 2014
    He caught me texting at 3am and got really upset. (I wasnt doing anything wrong but he didnt believe).
    After that he told me that he is out of his limits and he cannot be in a relationship anyway so we should stop seeing each other.
    I tried to change his mind but accepted it in the end.
    FEB 2014
    He says he missed me and want to see me. I said no and it took him three months of trying, begging, doing anything to see me.
    In May we started seeing each other again and he was even better to me (perfect actually) but when asked about the relationship he said he cant be with anyone right now.
    Some of the things he said that are still confusing me:
    “I have feelings for you”. I care a lot about you, i like you.
    You are as good as I can get.
    What happened between us looks like a miracle but it feels good bc i know i made it happen”… etc
    He was also very supportive in these months as I was going through something difficult.

    Anyway, I got tired of all uncertainity and told him I cant anymore. His reply was that he cant be in a relationship now but never said so for the future. Then when he accepted end he said “damn it, nothing else makes sense anymore”. That is exactly how i felt (that sentence really moved me).

    Now it’s been almost a year since break up and I am still not over him. He texted me few times just to ask how I am doing and the last time he even said maybe we will cross paths sometime soon (Sounds like he wanted to asked to meet me).
    My question is “why was he acting this way? Was he just not that into me?”
    I know he has low self esteem (now i do too thanks to him), He was hurt and cheated in the past. I did jump from one relationship to another and I did have a lot of guys flirting with me but I was only in love with him.

    And to add that he was always super sweet: bringing me medicine when I was sick, cooking and bringing me eveb meals as I dont cook, saving the parking spot in front of my building and waiting for me to come from wherever I was.

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21. Mike says

    May 7, 2015 at 11:32 pm

    6 Years ago when I was 21, I was in a relationship with this girl. She was my everything. She was the first person I ever loved and my first…. yanno. We were together for about a year but a couple of things happened, as they do. She was young and a bit of a princess, and we had a couple of issues with our families. Despite loving each other, we decided to go our own ways and part.

    The next few months were the worst of my life. I was miserable and inconsolable over what I had lost. I did EVERYTHING to try to get over her. I moved countries, went to counselling, dated right away then when that didn’t work I forced myself to be single for 3 years as a different tactic, etc. Life has moved on but I still hear about what she is up to every now and again.

    Its been 6 years and although I myself am engaged and have moved on, in my mind, she is still in my thoughts daily. I’m not sure if the feeling is “love”, or if its sorrow/anger because her life has worked perfect for her and she seemed to leave the relationship ’emotion free’.

    My feelings are becoming intense at the moment because…. she is getting married next month. I am ashamed at myself that I am literally bawling my eyes out over the prospect of a girl I haven’t seen in 6 years and who I probably wont see ever again, getting married.

    I guess what I’m asking is, has anyone been in a similar situation? Taken years and years to move on from a relationship but has been able to do it? If so, how? I have thought about hypnosis but I wouldn’t know where to start.

    Anyway, thanks for listening. I needed to vent 🙂

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    • Christine says

      August 9, 2015 at 7:01 am

      It’s been over 6 months since my ex n I have seen or spoken to each other. I still break down daily. She has moved on and I’m sure I will never see her again but not a day goes by that I haven’t prayed for her, spoke to her in my mind, or wrote her a letter about my day and what I wish we would have done. People think I’m crazy but my heart hurts and I struggle with out her.

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    • Mike says

      September 7, 2016 at 2:15 am

      It took me 5 years to get over the love of my life, the only thing that allowed me to move on was seeing her again and rejecting her, I feel that is a very underused tactic but many sites and books always say to initally accept and agree with the breakup. My advice would be to call her ask her out for coffee to “catch up a bit” and then at coffee talk about the positives in your life and leave within 30 mins it will work and greatly reduce the heartache.

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22. Martha says

    May 7, 2015 at 10:43 pm

    Me and my boyfriend met in 2011, I was 17 just turning 18 and he was 21 just turning 22. He is without a doubt my first boyfriend. Now he came with a really bad past, he’s been arrested, an ex drug addict and has a bad reputation for his high school days in our town. However upon meeting him he had a great soul and the way he made me feel was incredible. I fell in love and so did he. We got matching tattoos, we went every where together, I would even take him sometimes to his meetings for getting medication early in the morning (it was for people getting over heroin abuse) Now textbook he sounds bad, but he really wasn’t. He had the biggest heart, and he fell in those circumstances because he got hurt in college from a football injury that shattered his dreams of ever going pro so he found himself in the wrong crowd, depressed and coping with drugs. We planned on going to California, and after half a year of being together I came across a message he sent to a girl he knew from high school. He was talking to her about getting into the porn industry. I was devastated but confronted him. He replied he wasn’t going to but he felt broken about what he had become so he needed money. I felt sympathy and decided to let it go. He ended up getting a job doing construction and things continued going good. He was laid off and found himself with an opportunity at a local gym doing sales. Trouble started again. He started messaging girls and texting them, claiming it was nothing. He would break up with me kick me out. I would cling on more thinking maybe he needed love the most. He eventually broke up with me out of the blue march of 2012. I was so heartbroken I tried taking my life. Feeling that I was such a failure and that I couldn’t provide enough love to someone I cared and loved so deeply. He came back around after the incident, he had no clue what had happened and even accused me of lying until I provided him evidence from the hospital. I felt so broken that I was in the children psych ward and ashamed. I found during that time he tried getting with several girls and he said he just wanted to see if he still got it. I tried my best to give him space, he would go weeks without talking to me, he would come in and out of my life as he pleased. I was hands and knees on his call. Whenever he called to hang out, I was right there for him. He broke up with for three months fall/winter of 2012. Depressed and broke working retail jobs that surrounded his schedule to be able to see him more I enlisted in the Army. I told him and he didn’t call me until the week before I left he got back with me. I wrote him every day and he wrote me, I felt that I finally got my baby back. The second half of bootcamp when we went to the school part for our military jobs and got our phones, he broke up with me the day before my birthday. I then found out from my ex friend at the time that he heard he was cheating on me with a girl I went to high school with. Distraught but scared to show emotion in front of my sergeants, there was one kid who saw me crying and offered a shoulder to cry on. I cried to him straight for weeks and he listened to me, for the first time I felt like I was seen. He confessed he has feelings for me, I ended up trying to move on with him. He tried reconnecting with me on Facebook when he saw I was doing better and saw pictures of me with my friends. Angry but still in love I would talk to him but tell him I wanted nothing to do with him. He got with an ex (One who a girl he talked to frequently before our breakup) and a girl on vacation and i’m sure there are more, I just don’t know for a fact. He wanted to get back and I love him so much, I did too but I was hurt and I couldn’t knowing he cheated. When I returned home my friends story didn’t add up and honestly I still believe to this day I didn’t want to believe my friend. I missed him so much and we met up but I was resentful at the same time. Being back in my hometown everything was a reminder of him. The kid from the army wanted me to move to his state. Wanting to move on I tried it out but a week and a half later realizing I made a stupid impulsive decision, I told him it was a mistake and I’m still not over my ex. He was drinking got angry and put his hands on me, even tried running me over with his car. I packed all my stuff and left that night. My ex contacted me that he missed me so I tried to be with him ever since it has been a struggle. He has put his hands on me and I have put my hands on him, he has contacted his ex, lied, kicked me out of his house. We decided to move to NYC in summer of 2014. We lived in an apartment together. He has kicked me out three times and he has still been in contact with those girls. I had a melt down and ended in the hospital after he threatened to send my naked pictures to my baby brothers and “expose how much of a slut I am” After the hospital he asked me to move back in and then kicked me out. I started talking to a guy and he talked to several girls again. He came back apologizing and threatening to kill himself if I didn’t get back with him. Scared and upset for him I talked to him and I decided to get back with him because I love him and never want to see him that upset. He has contacted ex again and I confronted him he apologized. Now he asked details about the kid from the army and asked i he came in me. Something I denied for a long time because I did not want to speak about that with him. I know he has with several girls and let’s just say a woman’s intuition is usually if not always right… I told him that he did and he broke things off saying that he’s never going to talk to me again….

    Now here’s the question or questions.. Am I crazy, is he manipulating me? If I messed this up how do I fix it? Should I move on? If so, How? PLEASE HELP I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO!! MY FAMILY DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY AND I HAVE NO MORE FRIENDS!!

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23. Amanda says

    May 2, 2015 at 7:29 am

    After being in relationship with Harry for Five years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused.

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    • Anonymous says

      March 14, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      I tryed to hv my ex back bt he alwys hurt me i did tht bcs iif the lv i had for him nd bcs we hv a child together

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24. Janea Ashley says

    April 24, 2015 at 3:40 am

    My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 10 years older than him,i feel like my life is completely over. what should i do?

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    • Dave says

      May 6, 2015 at 6:18 am

      Well I would do what I’m gonna have to do I think which is move on. I’m going through the same thing after finding out months later that my ex left me for someone she met on a vacation I brought her on. You might wanna ask in these circumstances if you would even want them back or if things would ever be the same. But prepare yourself for a long road. It’s been 6 months for me.

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25. Neisha says

    March 19, 2015 at 6:16 am

    Well here’s my story, I met my current ex online around Dec. 2013 and we sporatically conversated by texting then by phone. Three months later the day after Valentine’s Day 2014, we were commited in a relationship. Mind you I havent been in a relationship for 3 years. I thought he was nice and respectful at the beginning then we were sort of having problems due to his living situation with someone else and wanted to stay with me. At first, I didnt feel comfortable with that because we barely starting dating and the time wasnt right so for a short time, he didnt mention it then maybe about 3 wks later, the person he was staying with, put him out so he told me. That same night I believe I was at work, he called me and said that the person put him out, so I was very upset went and picked him up and he stayed with me until August 2014. During the time he was there, I thought everything was cool but unfortunately my daughter for some reason did not like him at the house so my daughter and I was having problems like arguing about everything even about her boyfriend getting out of jail and also my sister was staying there as well so there was alot of friction between us. So for 6 months in the relationship, we were having problems of our own due to my daughter, sister, and daughter boyfriend out of jail, so much disrespect all around. So around July 2014, I wanted us to get a place of our own so we can really work on the relationship because I really care for this man. So in early August 2014, we moved to another city not too far from where we were, I thought things was getting back to normal, I was wrong.. When we was in our place, I was so happy because finally we can work on our relationship apparently he did not. What lead to our breakup was the fact in his opinion I didnt handle things with my daughter, sister, and daughter boyfriend out of jail, no communication, sleeping in the car that he felt I should’ve told him, accused me of cheating twice (I was faithful), and I wasnt strong enough woman for him. So one night in our new place, I did an errand for him so when I came back, I asked him if he fixed his computer, he said he couldn’t then he once again brought up my daughter and the things that happened at the old apartment. I told him my daughter is no longer around so why you bringing this up again, I thought everything was fine with you but it wasnt. The same night after I picked him up from school, he was not in a good mood and we argued again went to the house he got out of the car and I droved to the beach and cried my heart out. I didnt come back till late because i was really hurt. When I came back to the house, took a bath, he was there, I turned around and went to sleep, he made a smart remark that I had my back turned, we argued about that. During that time, he kept nitpicking a little arguement just to do it I was so sick and tired of him and it got on my nerves. The next night, I came home from work and he claimed he was texting his cousin “Erica” about me, mind you it was very late and I had asked him who he was texting and his response was “If you read the things that was said about you, you would be very hurt.” I was beginning to think in my mind he was seeing someone else but couldnt confirm it. Fast forward about 2 wks later, he ended the relationship because of the things I mentioned earlier about my daughter and no communication and blamed everything on me. He was gone for 6 days come to find out, my confirmation was true he was seeing someone because everyone was telling me then finally he told me. I was hurt. So I was goin out with other people while he was with her and Im sure he knew that but I was still hurt. So throughout September, I was looking for my own place because I just couldnt be there with him and her. By the end of September I had moved into my own place, he was not happy eventhough he was with her. Then my birthday was the followning month, he somehow started telling me his problems of her, that was irronic. Since then he wanted to start working things out with us and since then he’s not with her but he has been in contact with her because she keeps calling him and texting him i was getting tired of that, I asked him if he wants to be back with her, he says no because she’s now his ex gf. Leading up to yesterday, he wanted to look through my phone and show me something, I say ok, he was bothered that someone else called me babe, I told him nothing happened between us it was platonic, I didnt do anything, remember you didnt want to be in a relationship because you wanted to get your head together, now Im not sure if I want to work it out with him..What should I do because I love and care for him and I know he loves me but Im not sure right now, I need advice…

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    • Louise Hadley says

      March 22, 2015 at 10:38 am

      Hi, I can tell that you are very stressed out by this relationship. There are several issues that you have to work out with him, otherwise i don’t think you will be able to feel truly happy in this relationship. First, you need to have a chat with your bf about his ex girlfriend constantly calling and texting him. You need to let me know how you feel about it and two of you work out a solution that you both are happy with. Secondly, your bf has trust issues with you as he can’t help himself look through your phones. This shows he is either a suspicious guy or you are making him feel insecure. Only through communication, you two can figure out what is the root cause. If you are making him feel insecure, you should ask him what you can do to make him feel better. Lastly, you need to settle the whole ‘daughter&sister’ issue with him once and for all. It was once the reason he left. If it left unresolved, it will eventually come back and haunt you both. Again, talking about it and getting him to open up can help. By the way, remember to have a honest talk in a calm and positive way. Blaming or arguing cannot solve anything. Good luck!

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      • Neisha says

        April 9, 2015 at 12:50 am

        hello thanks Louise for your advice well as far as the daughter/sister/daughter bf well my daughter now has her own place, sister is staying with other people, and the daughter’s bf is back in jail again so that situation is over. Now as far as the suspicious guy or insecurties, well when he did look through my phone, mind you we are not in a relationship he was bothered but at the same time, his ex calls him “babe” in his text and over the phone and I was with him but didnt get upset and come to find out, he told me she popped up over his house but he was mad about that text, i didnt understand that. Anyways, the day before yesterday, we were in the car, and somehow he brought up that he was more ready for a relationship than I was and I told him that Im not over the way things went down and the way the relationship ended and I told him that basically he said that he was not ready for a relationship and that he wanted to get his head together then he also said that eventhough he was with her what i did was wrong of having another man in the house but he had her in the house and didnt talk with me about it. So I didnt say anything more about it. So the next day, I brought that to his attention and he apologized then he admitted that he cheated on me during the relationship so I have not talked with him today because I had to get my head together on that but I was wrong for what I did and didnt cheat during the relationship. The way I feel now is I do love and care for him but another part of my feelings is hurt because of my trust i thought I had with him, what should I do? I would like to work things out with him but Im not sure because of my trust issues with him..I need advice..thanks

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        • Anonymous says

          July 22, 2015 at 5:04 pm

          Dump him, he is using you. Think about everything he has put you through. He will continue to play this game over and over.

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        • TWD says

          July 28, 2017 at 9:50 am

          Your ex will tell you a lot of things after the breakup, but you can’t really believe everything they say. Heck, you can’t even trust their action. Overanalyzing your ex’s behavior will drive you crazy. And in reality, analyzing their behavior is not going to help you get your ex back or move on. AND TIME IS YOUR BIGGEST HELP! spend your time on things that worth better. Because in the end the feeling of accomplishment makes you so happy that you wont mind being in a “once upon a relationship”… but even then you know yes you love that person but above all what ever happened was for the best. Thence, concentrate on the EX? If it was meant to be, there would be no EX involved. NOW is the Time to completely ‘EX it’. Dear don’t think that what you are feeling is a reason to go backwards. Focus on other better things. Detach yourself from that person (social media especially, that person is not worth stalking) and look ahead, not backwards. YOUR answer, relief, and happiness is around the next bend, not in your rearview mirror. 🙂

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26. anthony says

    February 3, 2015 at 3:10 am

    I’m not sure what category to put this in so I’ll go with this. Me & my ex broke up over a year ago. She left me for someone else and cut me off completely. It’s been really depressing for me.

    2 Months ago I met someone new, and we’ve been dating ever since. It’s great but, I feel like something is missing in this new relationship. I think back to when I was with my ex, and how happy I was. I was moping around Social Media and came across pictures of my ex, and she’s more gorgeous now.

    I want to go back to my ex, but shes with that *******, and we’re strangers now. I know this isn’t fair to my current GF, I know she loves me, but I still harbor feelings toward my ex.

    Any advice on what to do?!?

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27. lenard says

    January 29, 2015 at 4:29 am

    Three months ago it was her birthday (we live in different cities) she came to my city and stayed at my apartment. We went for a meal, visited some nice places she likes, etc, etc, dinner, etc, etc By night we went back to my home.

    We were in my bed (not sexual mood, just relaxing, soft music you know) then she was browsing through her cellphone (really big screen phone) in front of me, browsing her whatsapp chats then she opened one chat where she sent this kind of meme that said “it wont be easy but I will try” surrounded by hearts and flowers. It came to my attention and told her “whats that?” She immediately put the phone behind her back and laughed and said “nothing” I thought she was being playful so I teased her “cmon, let me see”.

    But hey, she refused badly. This talk started to look more as a discussion and evolving into a fight. I said, ok, you hide something eh?. She said no way! Ok show me. No, you have no right to watch my cellphone it is my private life. I said well, you just showed me your cellphone it was not me sneaking at it, it was you started it all. It is my private life you have no right. I said I have the right to know you keep your word. It was a dead end discussion. So I relaxed, calmed but the moment was all ruined. So she then told me ok I will show you but this is the end of our relationship. I said ok we finish no problem, show me. Then she backed off, refused.
    More discussion. Then she suddenly opened the cellphone and showed me and I could read it was a chat with a coworker (she is a nurse and he is some sort of physician): She said “hello cute” he: “hello, Im glad you enrolled in the course it will be good for you” then she replied with the meme that said “it wont be easy but I will try” surrounded by flowers. (I already knew she was into some sort of optional course as part of her constant training in her hospital) But that was all she allowed me to see, it was the last part of the conversation, as she refused to browse more for me to see the whole conversation. Then I said ok your decisión but this is over. She got angry, we discussed.

    It was not that I felt cheated but what bothered me was that she was playing games and teasing me.

    I was so angry I wanted to dump her from my apartment, drive her to a hotel and left her there alone and say goodbye. But then I said that would be rude I have never ever dumped anybody from my apartment I really would feel strange doing so.

    I didn’t, I left her sleep and I went to the other room. Next day early on the morning she left. By 13:00 she called me she was ina restaurant close my aprtment. i met her there, we discussed extensively. I took her to the airport, we kissed each other but I didn’t feel good about it.

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28. chloe says

    January 28, 2015 at 10:30 am

    My boyfriend (now ex again) we together back in March and ended not too soon after because he dumped me providing so many excuses when all he really wanted to say was that he felt nothing for me and was leaving me. After that I was heartbroken, I went NC and eventually he came back saying what he did was stupid. He wanted me back, and I had to think about giving him a second chance.

    I did, and this was back in August. Yesterday, I talked to him about how much he’s been disrespecting me and my feelings, going days without talking to me, hanging out with his ex’s, not being serious when being romantic, and the only thing he told me is that he didn’t know how to stop hurting me. He said it’s “just his personality”

    In the midst of all this, he told me for the first time that he loves me. I just didn’t believe it. I couldn’t. I didn’t feel loved, or wanted at all. It all really hurt.

    Eventually, it was getting cold and I knew I had to wrap things up somehow, so I gave him a choice. I told him that he could stay with me and we could try to work things out, or he could walk away and lose me forever. He stood there for a good 15 minutes saying nothing with tears rolling down his face, and let me tell you, the silence killed me.

    Eventually he said, “I’m going home, I’m sorry” and walked away from me, leaving me out in the cold. I felt so alone and I started crying because this really meant the end. I have done this before but I didn’t know it would hurt so much more the second time around.

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29. George says

    January 27, 2015 at 7:38 am

    My ex and I broke up in the first week of October. The first week I grilled her asking many questions and got little answers. We had just bought a house together, and had closed on it literally 3 weeks before she said it was over.

    So the second week after the breakup it set in. I was very confused as everything seemed to be going as planned. Cleaning the house, painting and purchasing items LITERALLY 4 days before the breakup. With the confusion anxiety was chewing my insides up. So like the upset guy I was, I got really down and contacted her twice explaining how messed up our situation was now and that I had put all this work into getting a place for her, her daughter and I. I never blamed her for anything, I never screamed at her. I basically told her how upset I was that I was losing her and her daughter and all of the plans I had been working on over the past 2 months. This was going to be the first time she moved out of her mother’s house, and we were totally going to move in and do the family thing like every other normal couple we know.

    So the third week came. By now I’m moved into the house and celebrating my 31st birthday with my close family in the home. She sent me a birthday text, as did her mother. I texted her mom “thank you” and did not text my ex back. So on Monday after my birthday she texts me while at work, btw we work at the same place. She texts once “how are you?”, then “are you ok?”. Now mind you I deliberately ignored her text the previous day, and she knew I was at work. Basically she knew I was ok but was just checking in on me. So I finally tell her I can’t talk while I’m at work and I would call her on my break.

    I talked to her for my whole lunch break. I explained how much I love her and her daughter and that this was the biggest decision and best one I thought I ever made. Until this conversation she had shelled up and not spoken to anyone (she lives with her mom and didn’t know I replied to her mom’s birthday text?) and was very cold and stern with me, but this time she finally broke down and cried hard. I suggested a break would have been better than a breakup towards the end of the conversation and she said she would talk to me later.

    This is where my question comes in. It’s been 15 days of NC. I would like some advice on HOW to contact her, and WHEN I should contact her. I was planning on possibly this Sunday, which would make it 20 days. I know that people say NC is “time for you to move on, get over her/him, never talk to them again, you can never be friends” and other things I disagree with. I have taken time, I’ve found myself and I find myself happy as I am on my own. I just feel things could be better if we went through with our plans on being together. I still love her, and I honestly feel she got cold feet and made a mistake. I want to give HER a second chance. I just fear that if I prolong the NC she may think I am mad at her and want nothing to do with her. I know she hasn’t contacted me because she is scared to because she knows how big the breakup was, how much was at stake and what she walked away from. I honestly feel she thinks she made a snap decision and wants to come back, but she probably feels she has done too much damage to our relationship and to me. And BTW she is in NO hurry to get her down payment back and still has items I purchased at her mother’s house that I had asked for her to return. She knows when I work, and her mother still has a set of keys to the house that I asked to be returned and yet she has still not returned my things and the keys. All she has to do is open the garage, throw the items in there and lock the door with the keys inside. If she can’t muster up the courage to do it, her mother would do it for her! Why is she not returning my things?

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30. Erin says

    January 27, 2015 at 2:26 am

    Ive been in a relationship for 11 years. We were both 15 when we started dating, today 26. We’ve had our ups & downs – it is not all that easy being young and having a serious relationship; so i need to say that we did break up once before. I was 19 and just went to college. A whole new life for me and i started to wonder if I wasn’t missing all the fun.. Soon realizing my fun was my boy so after +- 1 month we got back together.

    We have been happy most of the time – we love the same music, we have the same interest, we had an awesome time together. But also we both have a very busy life. I have 2 jobs, he has a lot of hobbies and goes out much. I didn’t always have energy to go out with him, but never complained about him going out without me.

    When we turned 24 we decided to move in together. I still think it was the best decision in my life. I loved waking up to next to him every morning and taking care of him. In september we had our last vacation together. It was great. 10 days of joy & laughter.. So it hit me really hard that one week later he told me, completely out of the blue, that he didn’t want to move on with me. He couldn’t really give any explanation. He said i was the best thing that ever happened to him and that he still loves me, but that he sometimes is attracted to other girls – which was new for him and confuses him. He didn’t think it was good for a relationship that we don’t go out together and that we have both our lives. I told him i would give up a lot for him if he wants to spend more time with me, but he replied with ‘i like that you have a busy life and i don’t want you to give up on things you love’. He wanted me to move out so he could think about what he wants in life.

    So I did.. i moved back in with my parents and waited for a few weeks. I was desperate and called him crying almost every day. That of course did not help, but ive never felt so alone.

    A few weeks later we really did break up. I went over there mid november to talk about all the stuff we bought together and he cried a lot discussing this, wondering if he was making a mistake. I kinda got my hopes back up and gave him some space but couldn’t stop texting him.
    One day he was in doubt – the next he was all over me.
    I couldn’t take it any more so asked him to stop contacting me and i would to the same.

    I was strong! a whole week without any text or call but then he sent me a text ‘to check if i was doing alright’ i thought it was innocent to answer and so i did. I said I was doing ok – we chatted for over an hour and it ended with me crying because he said we always had a problem communicating and that we never tell each other how we feel. (Ive never felt that there was a problem..)
    The next day i went over to our apartment to get some stuff. I was really hurt but played it cool. I just took my stuff and said goodbye. He started to cry again, but didn’t want to talk about it.. I asked him face to face to not contact me cause it hurts me so much. Yet again 1 week later he has sent me a text every other day.. i can’t resist not to answer.. Could it be that he misses me and wants to give us another chance?
    I’m too afraid to ask what he wants to accomplish with contacting me again because i don’t want to push him.. But i can’t believe it’s over..

    We were really happy together and i still believe we’re a perfect match.

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31. Emma says

    January 26, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    My boyfriend and I are breaking up and it’s on good terms, and I understand but it still is devastating. Basically he is young and feels insecure because he doesn’t really have a lot of life experience. Which I get, I was there…you’re young you need to explore, experience, feel free. We were really good to one another and had this amazing trust/bond for a while. Of course there were problems looming like past issues from his childhood, etc. I’m happy and excited for him that he’s going out into the world to find out who he truly is but I’m still effing SAD. Ugh.

    What sucks is that he was the one that pushed for the relationship, he wanted to be at my place every single night, he wanted to move in together, he wanted this whole entire life. Also there is something about me that makes it hard for him to open up to me…which hurts because I’ve never had anyone every tell me I’m hard to talk to. Everyone always says I’m the easiest person in the world to talk to…but there is something about our dynamic that makes him clam up. Alas…it is a moot point because I am moving out and we are separating. I guess I’m just looking for peace of mind because there is no one else involved and we still really love each AND if I’m completely honest with myself he wasn’t a great partner and I was unhappy a significant amount of time. Plus I changed who I was because he was so insecure and I didn’t want to make him feel worse. I know I know. Dumb. But why do I still love him so damn much? Why do I want to work it out? It makes me feel crazy.

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32. tom says

    January 25, 2015 at 9:07 pm

    My gf and I were I together for 3 years, we just clicked instantly and couldn’t be without each other, we never had an argument. Times are tough for me at the moment with no work and family problems so that obviously shined through. I caught her texting another guy so I flipped, I already had my suspicions and she confirmed them, he was making her happy when I wasn’t. I was trying, but I don’t handle bad times well. So she left me. I had a couple of distraught days, even calling her crying which she didn’t like. Then I decided I’d try, for my friends sake, to have a good weekend which I did. She was on my mind but I managed to push through. After the weekend she rang and we spent an hour on the phone talking about Nothing. It was nice. Then Tuesday she asked to go for a coffee so we did and it was nice, I was so nervous. This is the girl I confessed I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. (I’m I’m my 20s) when I got home she text me saying she wanted things to go back to how they were, I asked if she wanted more space and she said yeah I want you to know you mean the world to me. So I panicked yesterday and rang her crying again. This doesn’t help, she said so. But later so rang me back and we just chatted nicely. I am constantly on edge, the only thing I can do it wait, but the Impact that has in my daily life is horrific. Thank you for reading this sorry it’s long, what do I need to do? Just wait?

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    • Louise Hadley says

      January 26, 2015 at 4:10 pm

      Hi, first of all, pls stop calling her and crying to her. That is just a sign of weakness. Man up!!! Women are not attracted to men who are emotionally weak. Secondly, stop making yourself so available to her. it will only make her take you for granted and see you as her backup. By the way, girls love the idea of having a guy who will always be there if she decides to go back to him one day. But that day never comes. It just makes girls feel good about themselves. So, if you want to get her back, stop doing all the above and start practice no contact for a while. At the same time, work on yourself to improve your self-confidence and make yourself more attractive 🙂 Good luck!

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33. Emilly says

    January 25, 2015 at 5:18 am

    I feel so devastated on his betrayal. He said his love for his ex is gone but in just a matter of few days that they spent together, all of a sudden everything has changed. My heart stopped beating when he admitted that they were back together. Worst, he did it in front of the girl who was freakingly mad. I couldn’t say less as i was too shocked. For 6 years we never quarrel, it was perfect. How can he ever do this to me?

    When we had the chance alone, he explained that he got back to her because he doesn’t have future with me as i am married. Yes, i am married but he knows that my marriage is almost only in paper as it has been in chaos a long time ago and in fact it was one of the reasons why i had to work abroad. At the very start, i warned him that i am married but he insisted until our friendship turned into a deeper relationship. I thought he was deeply in love with me until the freak came back. How can he accept her again when he was betrayed not only once?? How can he do this to me when it was me who helped him recover from this pain? How can he betray me this way?

    Is there a possibility to win him back when they keep on communicating thru skype & social medias while me, we just meet only once a week? Please help..Should i stay and be a “mistress” or should i let go? He said he will stay by my side until i am ready to let him go. What should i do?please help

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    • Louise Hadley says

      January 27, 2015 at 3:07 am

      Hi, your situation is really very complicated. I don’t think you should stay as a mistress. that is not the way to win him back. Also, I advise you to sort out your own marital issues at the same time. Although your marriage is only in paper, that doesn’t give you the excuse to be with another guy. If you think your marriage is not working out, then you need to think whether divorce is the right solution. As for this ‘ex’, you have mentioned that he was betrayed not only once by his ex, but he still takes her back. That looks to me that he is really into his ex. I seriously think you should let go and end your misery. You deserve better than this.

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34. robert says

    January 23, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    This is me and my exs 2nd big break up. We have been together for a total of two years from graduation, living together, been engaged, and even my mom passing. With all the stress from school, work, bills, and my mom passing I got comfy and we lost our spark and argued all the time. I was very immature and selfish. She won’t talk to me she said we’re not meant to be, and she doesn’t love me and that we won’t get back together. She blocked me and then unblocked me off Facebook but she deleted all our pics and she seems very happy without me. I think she’s just tired of the arguing and never gets better. We broke up for 4 months one time because of basically the same thing and it was better when we got back but then when my mom passed I went down hill. I really want her back and I’ve tried everything. Maybe later in life I can try? But what if she moves on for good, I feel like she was the right one just the wrong time.

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    • Louise Hadley says

      January 26, 2015 at 10:02 am

      sorry to hear about your mum. Stay strong!
      Like what you said, your problem with your gf is constant arguments and fights. I recommend that you read this blog post on communications(‘http://goo.gl/n4BdRv’). It is good for you and your future relationship. If you feel that you want her back in your life, you should try to get her back. If you are not taking any action, that only means you are NOT that desperately wanting her back in your life. Maybe you are just not used to life without her?

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35. michelle says

    January 21, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    I have recently been with someone 9 months all has been ok we had a very strained relationship as I found out my daughter had skin cancer so obviously I was stressed most of the time worrying because of the big knowing with her results and the operation she had to have so our relationship took strain.
    Pleased to say daughter got the all clear and I couldn’t be happier now my partner use to come round sit on his butt And watch me Run around doing washing, yes his even though he didn’t live here he was here over Xmas no thanks no nothing so we argued he walked out and he finished it so I agreed yep let’s finish it a day later he text all nice as he had done a previous time finished it and then text as if nothing had happened and I said were not doing this again you can’t keep finishing with me and then start texting like nothing has happened it’s not fair and that’s how it stayed for a few days ..we was texting each other but it was just civil . Ok so I calmed down did some thinking and yes I missed him and as we were being civil I told him I missed him.. Well now his turned round saying I want to be single I don’t want to be with you when a few days before he was acting like we hadn’t split up ! And now a complete turn around I’m not sure if this is some cruel ego game his playing like he wants to be in control and wants me to chase him (not happening) but the complete change its like a different person and giving Me lectures about why we shouldn’t be together but he also says I don’t want to leave this on bad terms.

    a few days have past and he had some parcels delivered here so i texted saying you have some parcels here which should have been here over xmas he replied saying he would pick them up if i leave them outside. as he didnt want to see me ???. we was amicable and civil and we chatted and i said i was seeing a clairvoyant on the 21st and he said on maybe your find out about your new boyfriend which i ignored and told him that i was looking forward to see what she said and again he bought up yeah she might tell you your going to meet a lovely fella and get married now why does he keep saying that he admitted he missed so why keep going on about me meeting someone else he keeps doing it !! men confuse me

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36. Rose says

    January 14, 2015 at 11:54 pm

    So long story short I fell in love with this man online, yes im aware it sounds freaking stupid but it happened regardless. He feel for me too so after years of talking and planning, lots and lots of skyping I finally figured a way to be with him in England as I am in the US. Signed up for school there, got the loans all settled and now about a month due for me to arrive he says he isn’t in love with me anymore :O He promised me the moon, we were gonna buy a house, get married have kids the whole damn thing and everything was going as planned till this epifiayn. Well it’s too late for me I have signed my paperwork and have no choice but to go to england now or destroy my student loans He wants desparatly to stay friends and just wont stop texting me. Im just so broken at this point cause Ive lost my family now, he is the only person I know in the whole country. I don’t know if he is just panicking or if he just played me for a fool and now wants to keep me around as fwb while he plays the field and not commit. I put all my trust in him and now I don’t know what to do! I’ll never be his friend or backup plan just don’t know what he wants from me. Oh btw he broke up with me the day before my birthday to boot and sent me this vid. Dont know if its regret of guilt in his eyes maybe somebody can look at it and tell me. Tell me if im a fool to still believe he is just scared

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37. Jodie says

    January 6, 2015 at 11:57 am

    Me and my fiance broke up nearly 9 months ago we were together for 5 years, engaged for 4 and have a two year old daughter together who he sees regularly. We broke up due to arguments and financial difficulties. 8 weeks ago I found out he started seeing a new girl when I asked him if he was happy he said he wasn’t. As far as I know it’s not serious, me and my ex instantly fell in love with one another when we first met it was abit of a whirlwind relationship and we even planned to get married but had our daughter instead. He says we maybe together in the future and that he still loves me but not as strongly as before. I’ve started no contact as I feel if I let go I’m going to regret it forever.

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38. Jones Nicole says

    September 6, 2014 at 10:56 pm

    my ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do

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    • Louise Hadley says

      January 8, 2015 at 5:20 am

      First of all, you need to ask yourself if you really want him back after the pain he caused you. Is he going to cheat again and hurt you again? You need to clear your mind and do some thinking first about what you really want and what is good for you before making any decision.

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39. davisha says

    August 18, 2014 at 6:09 am

    So my unofficial ex bf is confusing me like mad. We have been in a relationship for a year and were really in love. But due to my religion etc my parents want to arrange my marriage with another guy. I was really upset and still am and feel helpless because I love my ex but see more future prospects with the guy my parents have proposed, he is a gentleman (known him 2yrs).
    So since this has been happening for the last 4/5 months my ex was upset at first and showed jealousy etc throughout he has tried to support me. He encouraged me to tell my family about him but until this day i am still afraid of upsetting them.

    He has said stuff like he is looking for someone else and will slowly forget about me. But the next day he talks to me for hours and talks about our future together. yesterday he told me to leave him alone and that it would be best for us both.
    2 months ago i stopped talking to him and he begged for me to come back and later admitted he hated that i had ‘gone’ and was not the one chasing him.
    He says stuff like “I gave u my everything but when i wanted to propose to you, you were not ready. Why have you come back now”.
    I think because now I feel he is moving on and don’t care about me I want him more.
    I have tried to contact him today but he ignores my calls and on whatsapp says he is typing but nothing comes through. So confused…
    What is he thinking? Has he had enough or is he just upset? Does he still love me or have i broken his heart?

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40. Brad says

    August 9, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Basically my Gf dumped me 3 months ago over arguments and she said she had mixed feelings and didnt wanna be with me anymore. I was devastated and did all the things your not suppose to do, txting, calling, that kinda stuff, she pretty much ignored me.

    So i did the no contact thing for a month and she never made an effort to contact me but i could see her post things on her social network saying how lonely she is and wut not (never rly directing anything to me specifically).

    When the month was done i decided to txt her and see how everything was. She always answers my txts now and kinda makes conversation but otherwise dead silence if i dont make the first move.

    I recently went to a friends lil house party where she went as well and i could see her watching me and smile when we would lock eyes, after she had a few drinks where she loosened up she was practically all over me, leaning against me, hugging me, nothing intimate though.

    The next day i txt her and shes apologizing saying she shouldnt of been so “touchy”, blaming it on the alcohol even though she wasnt smashed i feel like she knew what she was doin. So i asked her if she still has feeling for me she said i dunno, i asked her if 1 day she could see us getting back together she said i thought about it but i dunno.

    Im so confused i dunno what to do i still love her but i feel like she cares and at the same time doesnt. I see her a few days a week at a restaurant i go to with my boss and i can see her watching me sometimes and smiling when i look at her, but yet doesnt wanna be with me. Is she just being nice? Is she confused about what she wants? Is she playing hard to get?

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