What are your chances of getting back together with your ex after a long time apart?
Before I get to that, you need to first ask yourself why you want to get back with your ex years after you two went separate ways.
You need to understand that a lot has changed and happened during this period of time. It is safe to assume that both of you could have dated other people. You two have not been in contact for some time now and people can change over time.
So what makes you think that it is a good idea to give it another try after so many years? You need to do yourself a favor to think this through before moving forward with your plan of getting back with your ex.
Some readers tell me that they just one day bumped into their ex after a long time of losing contact and their ex now looks amazing, then they decided to catch up over coffee and had a great time.
Coincidentally, both of them are single. They started falling for their ex again and thinking about getting their ex back. Some write to me to say that their ex found them on social network sites and then they started talking to each other again after such a long time apart.
Slowly, all the feelings began to come back again. Not too long after, they are thinking about getting back together with their ex again.
Well, each couple is different and each one of your story is unique. Some relationships have strong foundations while some relationships are just based on sexual desires.
Some people had a great relationship with their ex but they broke up because of circumstantial reasons or just a simple misunderstanding. A lot of couples get back together after a long time apart. Even some divorced couples rekindle their love again and marry each other again.
But there are also couples who don’t get back together after breakups. So, it very much depends on what your specific situation is.
In general, there are 7 factors that help determine your chances of winning back your ex:
Factor 1: The Length of Your Relationship With Your Ex
The length of your relationship with your ex is important. Statistics have found that the longer you dated your ex, the higher chances you would have getting your ex back. The reason is because you two have more history together and the foundation of your relationship and bond is also stronger.
But that is not to say that if you have only been with your ex for a couple of months that you are not able to get back together. It also largely depends on then next factor…
Factor 2: The Reason For Breakup
If you broke up with your ex due to circumstantial reasons such as you or your ex have to move to another city or country because you two feel that long distance relationship won’t work, then it is relatively easy to rekindle the love with your ex.
This means that you both are still at the core loving couples and would still have been together if geography didn’t come in between you two. So if the situation now permits you two to being physically together, then your chances of getting back together remains very high.
However, if you two broke up because of different goals in life or different values, then the possibility of getting back together, although definitely possible, can be slightly more challenging.
If you still want to get back with your ex, you have to ask yourself whether you are still able to accept the differing views and values that made you both break up in the first place.
Going back into the relationship hoping that your ex is the one to change will only bring about a short-lived reunion. So keep that in mind before you decide to get back with your ex.
Factor 3: The Way Relationship Ended
If you two had a mutual and amicable breakup, then it is likely that you two can get back together again. This is because you will tend to remember all the fun things you did together and that helps make couples want to give it a try again.
However if your breakup was nasty and you two said lots of hurtful words to each other, then it is going to be tougher to start all over again. This is because there would be lots of emotional barriers you two have to get over before before being able to accept one another again.
It also goes down to how hurtful those words are. Did your ex take it to heart when those words were said? Are they able and willing to forgive you for what was said? Fortunately, regardless of what was said, with time apart and specific psychological tactics, you will will still be able to get back with your ex.
Factor 4: Were You Serious With Each Other?
If you have both met each others family and friends and they liked your ex, and if you have talked about future plans together, then it means that you might have a higher chances of reconciliation.
When you have already discussed future plans together, that would mean that your ex have already in their heart once settled with the idea that you are the one for them. They once wanted to spend their entire life with you. And if your ex still have feelings for you, then you have a very high chance of rekindling your fire you had with them and continue to build a life together and hopefully live happily ever after!
Factor 5: Is Your Ex Seeing Someone?
If your ex is seeing someone now, then they might not want to leave their current lover for you especially if everything is going well with them.
However, the good news is that people have the “grass is greener on the other side” mentality. That means to say that when your ex is having the inevitable quarrels with their current partner, believe it or not, they will start to think of you. This is then the time to grab hold of this opportunity to win your ex back.
Factor 6: Is Relationship One of Your Ex’s Top Priorities?
People have different priorities at different stage of their life. Some might want to focus on their career or study first and put relationship aside for the time being. If that is the case, you have more work to do to make your ex desperately want you to be part of their life again.
Factor 7: What Have You Been Doing To Get Your Ex Back?
If you are reading this, you are either thinking about getting your ex back or have been trying to get your ex back but it is not working too well so far. Sometimes, what you are doing might be hurting your chances of getting your love back, or worse it might kill your chances completely.
If you are not following any proper strategies to get your ex back, then your chances of reuniting with your love will definitely be lower.
So these are the 7 factors that determine if you have a good chance of getting your ex back. Keep them in mind and remember, when in doubt of what NOT to do to jeopardize your chances of getting your ex back, come back to this blog for more advice and tips!