Facebook has now become such an integral part of lives that it is almost unimaginable that a day goes by without logging on to it.
We want to know what our friends are doing.
We want to see the pictures our friends have shared on their page.
And if our ex just broke up with us, we can’t help but want to know what they are doing every single day.
Have they found someone new?
Do they still miss me?
Have they moved on?
And tons of other questions that run through our minds to the point of almost driving us insane.
It’s tough, I know.
We are sometimes even tempted to message them on Facebook.
We want to tell them we have changed or that we still care about them.
Or worse, when we see photos of them having fun with the opposite sex, we want to know who that person is and even start making the mistake of demanding an answer from them.
While you may feel justified that you should do all these, unfortunately, it will only chase your ex further away from you.
Then, it defeats the very purpose that made us want to contact them in the first place – to get them to love us and to be back into our lives again.
So, what should we do instead to have a chance of reuniting with them again?
Luckily, there’s a way.
In fact, there are 4 ways to significantly increase your chances of bringing your love back into your life again with Facebook!
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Here are the 4 powerful ways to get your ex back with Facebook :
1) No Negative or Hurtful Posts
Do not post any sad or hateful posts about your ex.
This is extremely important.
We do not want to be seen as the victim or engage in any unnecessary quarrels online with your ex.
Why?
Imagine if you were to make a sad post on Facebook.
Chances are that your close friends and family upon seeing the post will start asking you all about it.
And when they do, you start to pour your hearts out to them.
This is self-defeating for one reason – it will not make you feel any better and you may feel even worse.
The reason is that you are actually indulging in your pain rather than finding a solution.
And by indulging in your pain and sadness, you get even more immersed which in turn enhances the feelings and emotions of sadness, sorrow, and loneliness inside you.
Here’s what you should do instead…
You have to see yourself as an athlete with one goal in mind – to win.
And in your case, to win your ex back.
Do you see the athlete who wants to win the Olympic Gold complain constantly or indulge in the pain and struggles of their training?
Not at all.
Athletes are focused on only giving their best in their training, so they stand a chance to win.
So like athletes, you should remember that your goal right now, is to do what is necessary to get your ex back.
Also, such posts and messages will only push your ex further away from you.
Why?
Because you will look weak in your ex’s eyes.
Have you seen anyone who is attracted to another person because they look weak?
Most likely not.
In my years of helping people like yourself, I have never seen this even once.
In fact, they may even feel irritated after seeing such posts.
So stay clear of making such kinds of posts.
People are generally attracted to people that are cheerful, positive and happy.
So instead of posting posts that don’t make yourself look good…
Why not post pictures and words to show that you are having the best time of your life now?
Remember, we all want to be with someone who can let us feel positive feelings.
Your ex is no different.
And I’m sure you wouldn’t have been with your ex in the first place if they had given you negative feelings right from the start, right?
So what you want to do is strategically think of what you can post to get yourself to be viewed positively.
When your ex sees posts on your Facebook feed that shows your positivity and happiness…
It might even get your ex to reach out to you.
And this is not just “theory”.
I’ve had many coaching clients where their ex had reached out to them only because they started to post things on their Facebook feed to make them look positive.
2) Don’t Private Message Them
I know it will get weird whenever you log on to Facebook and see that your ex is online, and you know that they can see you online too.
But they don’t message you.
You wait a couple of minutes, thinking maybe they have yet to notice you are online too and hoping they will message you.
Thirty minutes to an hour goes by and they still haven’t messaged you.
Surely, they must have seen that you are online right?
“So why haven’t they messaged me?“, you think to yourself.
Then suddenly, they go offline.
You feel angry, sad, or maybe even betrayed.
You now can’t help it but want to message them and ask them tons of unanswered questions you have in your mind.
It’s very tempting, I know.
But don’t do it.
If you still want to have any chance of getting back with your ex at all, I stress, don’t message them!
Here’s why.
When you do that, you are actually pushing your ex further away.
You see, they already know that you are going to ask them tons of questions like…
“Do you still love me?”
“Can we give it another try?”
“If I change, will you get back with me?”
That also includes seemingly harmless questions like…
“What did you do today?”
“Who did you go out with last night?”
“What did you eat for dinner?”
While these may seem like harmless questions…
These are the kind of questions that scare the wits out of your ex.
Not only will they have to keep coming up with excuses, and they might even think that you are checking up on them or even stalking them!
All of these will only make them feel annoyed.
And what do you think your ex will do if they feel annoyed?
They will run.
Far, far away from you.
Faster than you can imagine.
Which is why it’s important NOT to message them at all.
The most important thing before you ask such questions is to put yourself in the shoes of your ex.
How do you think your ex will perceive you when you ask such questions?
Will that make your ex feel positive or negative?
Will that make your ex feel you have changed since the breakup or that you are still the same?
And will that make your ex feel that the decision to break up with you is the right decision or the wrong one?
If your answers to the above questions point to a negative perception of you in your ex’s minds…
Then you know the answer – do NOT ask them those questions.
So what should you do instead?
Read carefully because the following tactics are very powerful when used correctly…
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3) Post Fun Pictures of Yourself
Start getting yourself involved in a new and fun activity and meet new friends, especially of the opposite sex if possible.
I generally advise my clients to take up a new sport.
Then while you are genuinely having fun and enjoying yourself, take a group photo.
If you go out on a group dinner or just out for drinks with your new-found friends, take pictures.
Lots of pictures.
Then take these pictures and upload to your Facebook page.
Chances are if your ex has you in their news feed, the pictures of you having fun will automatically show up on their homepage and would immediately catch their attention.
And especially if you are amongst friends who are of the opposite sex, the effect is even much greater.
So why do all this?
You see, when your ex broke up with you, do you think they will expect you to be happy or sad?
They would probably expect you to feel sad, right?
Then when they suddenly see pictures of you having so much fun…
They will start to wonder why aren’t you affected by the breakup at all.
Now, instead of asking lots of questions in your head…
You have turned the tables on them and now they are the ones scratching their heads wondering why you are so happy!
And if they see someone of the opposite sex with you too…
They may even start to get anxious because, in their minds, they may think that you have moved on and did not expect you to move on so fast.
You might now be asking…
“But wouldn’t this make my ex go further away from me after seeing me having a fun time with the opposite sex?”
Nope, absolutely not.
In fact, it will only draw them closer to you.
Here’s the psychology behind this…
When your ex broke up with you see that you may potentially get someone new, they will start to feel a sense of “ownership loss”.
It’s like you once owned something and because you chose to let it go and is now owned by someone else, you now have a sense of regret and wished you hadn’t done so.
This is the same feeling your ex will have.
In fact, just only recently, I had a client that went through the very same thing.
My client’s ex broke up with her and immediately another guy started chasing her.
That guy would go out with her for dinner and drinks and they took several pictures together.
The guy then posted those photos of them and tagged her on Facebook.
And because she was tagged in those photos, her ex could see them in his feed and upon seeing those photos, he immediately contacted her and decided to get back with her!
Use this technique of “ownership loss” on your ex as well and don’t be surprised if your ex suddenly contacts you!
When I taught this tactic many of my clients, their ex literally messaged them within minutes of posting those pics too.
So it can just work wonders for you as well!
But be warned…you must be prepared to know how to reply to your ex otherwise you might jeopardize your chances of getting back with your ex.
And to make this impact even stronger, you should…
4) Post Fun and Happy Posts
So, for example, if you took up a new sport like tennis, you can add a message to your fun picture like…
“Let’s do this again guys next week! This time I’ll win for sure!”.
Why write messages like these instead of sad or hateful messages?
Again this is psychological.
When your ex expects you to be sad, all of a sudden you have disillusioned them by posting pics and messages of yourself having a great time and being so happy.
This does two things…
Firstly, it makes your ex start to wonder why you are so happy almost as if your breakup didn’t affect you at all.
Secondly, and more importantly, it makes you attractive again.
Let me ask you this:
Would you rather be around a person that is sad and gloomy or someone who is jovial and full of energy?
Obviously the latter.
And when your ex sees this, your ex will be reminded of the fun times you two had together.
This is when your chances of getting your ex back increases.
So, now that you know the 4 powerful ways on what to do and what not to do to get your ex back, start implementing it and let me know how it goes!
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Valerie Watson says
If we commit mistake and then our relationship break. In this situation, we want to get back our ex. You give great idea about how to get ex back in life by using Facebook.
WELLICE says
I am the most happiest woman on earth right now, My fiancee that left me few months ago just came back to me last night crying to take him back. Guess what?? My highest surprise is that he just proposed to me right now and a car as a sign of apology. Thanks Louise!
Lisa Hummings says
Thank you for what you have done for me! My husband stopped to fill the divorce papers after i contacted you to help me stop the divorce , me and my husband now things are going much better now. As you said, all the process concerning the divorce have been cancelled and the evil woman that cause the problem in my marriage has be sent away by my husband and we are now happy together.
Amine says
For my case. We were together for a year and ther was ups and downs but i tried my best to make it work. She didn’t. I tried to make her feel happy all the time. I cared too much but i felt she wasn’t on the same page with me. I felt that she was lost and told me qhe want to find herself. I was traumatized because i never doubt my love for her. And i never said i love you to someone… I felt betrayed because she said i love you back….so now im just a heartbroken man with some dignity left….i want to see someone else. I need that someone who will make me see why it didn’t work out with others.
Lou101 says
I was with a guy for four months. We met travelling in Australia. We had so much fun, he told me I was the best girl he ever met and that I made him feel things he never felt before. Even our friends told me he was besotted with me. Every night, he hugged to until I fell asleep and told me he loved me every morning. He introduced me to his family and generally made me feel like a princess. He told me he loved me many times before I said it back. He had to leave 6 weeks earlier than we to head back to the UK for work. When parting, both told each other we loved each other and that we would see each other at home in 6 weeks. He told me he would be waiting and wasn’t going anywhere. We texted, joked, called and sexted normally for a few days, then I noticed he stopped gradually communicating with me. I asked him what was wrong, he said I was overthinking it. Then the next day messaged me saying he wants to end it. He just said he can’t commit to a relationship because of work. He said he has different perspective since being home and didn’t want the hassle of managing a relationship and having to text me all the time. He downplayed the relationship saying it was nothing more than casual. But after, he changed his mind and said he loved and if things were different in his life he would have loved to be with me and that he loved me. I cant understand what changed or how his feelings changed in under a week. His work isn’t that stressful and it would be perfectly doable so I feel this is an excuse. At home we live half an hour away from each other, and I told him i’m happy to do most of the travelling to see him (I work remotely, and he doesn’t, so it’s easier for me to go to him). He swore blind that he hasn’t met anyone else. He said he was hurt too but he’s made his mind up and that’s that. However, he laughed on the phone whilst breaking up with me and told me he didnt understand why I was so upset. He asked me to stay friends, I said it wasn’t possible and that I needed to move on and date other guys. Then he became angry and replied that I was bitter and childish to send such a reply and to go and sleep with someone else if I want. I responded calmly that he was being dramatic, that he wanted the breakup and that it wasn’t me acting childish now but the other way around. He straight away blocked my number on Whatsapp. We are still friends on facebook and messenger, and haven’t spoken since. Its only been a few days but I miss him so much. He broke my heart and I don’t understand why. I love the bones of him and don’t want anyone else. I keep wondering if he still thinks about me or regrets it. Do you think there is any chance he will realise he has made a mistake and want me back? Is there anything subtle I can do to make him miss me and want me back. I’m so hurt and confused. I’m trying to focus on me. I’m worried sick that he is going to forget me and get with someone else. Any advice would be great right now. I should also point out that there is a big age gap between us. I am the girl and am 26, he is only 22.
Karen says
My partner and I have been together for 12 years but we broke up 3 years ago after our fight over his cheating habits which they all say it’s not their fault but I was the one getting hurt. I was upset over the whole issue that I had to call for the separation but I felt really bad. The separation really had effects on my daughter who had to live away from her father that I had to think of a way to settle things out and find solution to my husband’s awkward behaviour.
Amine says
His lost. I experienced the same thing. People can be harsh sometimes but at the end what is meant to be will be. He didn’t love you back sorry to say that but he just didn’t. Heartbreak s are the worst and i get how you feel because i feel the same way. If someone really loved you. He wouldv stayed in your life. Move on like i did and try to discover new people
Kristen says
So I was in a serious relationship with a man for four years. We got engaged while he was in the military. To be with him i left my family, left my hometown in Florida to be with him in New York. He ended up being very depressed and having tons of anxiety. I was there with him through it all. Helped him with meds, took care of his mom, a lot of stuff. So anyways. Things got bad because we stopped acting like a couple. Said the only reason he wanted to marry me was because he didn’t want to be alone the rest of his life. Every time we argued he’d yell at me to go home. Line always made it seem like my feelings never mattered. He always did that though .anyways, he became cold hearted and snapped at me a lot. So I told him enough was enough and I decided to go back home to be with my family in FL for awhile. We never broke up, but we did say it was best for both of us to take a break. Mutual agreement. So anyways, I look on twitter one day and noticed a picture on a girls post that he was holding hands with another girl in HIS car and I lost it. Yelled at him, cussed at him, told him he was single if he wanted to play games. A few weeks I forgave him after that. But he admitted to me that he’d never beg for me back. That I deserved better. And that a I pressured him into wanting him because I did say I missed him.
Last time we spoke was a few days ago. He said I was pressuring him but all I did say was that he did make me happy.
I don’t get it?
I left my family, provided for his, supported him.
Help a girl out please. What do I do?
leo says
I got dumped by my ex from a 2.5 yrs of a long distance relationship. We got cold and the distance got farther, she took all our plans of closing the distance, getting married and we both took on separate paths, this was last November…
I have been moving on just fine. Picked up a second job and keeping myself busy. When I have time, I go out with friends and some dates here and there. I have been planning my future, planning on trips, how I will reinvent myself and pursue my goals… I think I have been moving on just fine…
Until just now… my friend just texted me… saying that my ex moved here… in the same town… with the same circle of friends…
Im just literally destroyed, felt like my heart jumped out and back… felt like back to zero… all these thoughts crossing my mind… why is she here? after dumping me? she didnt have to be here, it was easier when shes so far…
I dont know how I’m gonna deal with this… especially if we cross paths… the distance never gave me a chance to fight for my love a few months ago… why now?
sam says
Myself 25 male and ex 22 female were together for 3 years and last year we were together 24/7 and suffocated eachother.
Our problems began when certain life circumstances occurred over the course of our uni year last year. She wasn’t enjoying her course and i was stressed to the max with mine. Along with some really bad financial issues i was going through i changed and became a very insecure negative individual. We would wake up in the morning and go to uni and at the end of the day she would come home and because i was given a spare key i would be at her place EVERYDAY. The days revolved around us and i would often complain about life and money and there was just lots of negativity.
As a result she became isolated and emotionally detached from everything as everyday was all about us. She stopped going out and seeing her friends and became demotivated and unhappy across the course of last year and even ended up failing a paper. Earlier this year in February, going to a wedding made her realise that she had fallen out of love and didnt want to be in a relationship with me anymore.
After the wedding she told me she was unhappy with the relationship and fell out of love with me and didnt want to be in a relationship anymore.
8 weeks leading up to the breakup we tried to work on the relationship but no matter what we did she said it just didnt feel right and she wasnt into it anymore.
She broke up with me 3 weeks ago and said she wants to find herself and cant be with me because she knows she wont fall back in love and doesnt want to be in a relationship. She said with everything going on her life and wanting to get into honours for her course she just cant be in a relationship full stop. Coming into the relationship she felt like a whole person and knew who she was and now shes not a whole person and needs to find herself
I know we had something special but im not sure if my particular situation is salvageable?
esie says
Its my story also… gf broke up with me because of uni… fell out love with me blah blah…
beth says
I am 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. The one who came close was a boy i met last year. He is 3 years older than me. One day he messaged me on facebook and asked for my number. He started texting me everyday. He was a little bit clingy and weird at first but I liked the attention! Eventually we met at his place and went out for coffee. At the end of our night I was so nervous I was shaking when I told him goodbye, anticipating that he would probably never call me again after our awkward first date but me texted as soon as I left saying he had a great time and he’d like to see me again.
We went out once a week for about a month and everything was great. On our fourth date he asked me to stay the night at his place. I said no because we had just met and I didn’t feel comfortable sleeping over yet. We were cuddling on the couch the whole night, I felt a bit uncomfortable, I could tell he was “turned on” if you know what I mean lol also I’m not a very “touchy feeley” type of person. He texted me asking if I would be his “cuddle buddy” I said ok because I assumed that ment that he wanted to be my boyfriend… of course it didn’t lol.
The fifth night or sixth we hung out he asked me to stay the night again and I said “ok”. He wanted me to sleep in bed with him but I decided to sleep on the couch. The next morning we had breakfast together on said couch. Everything was fine until I let my emotions take over and I kissed him. We started making out for a long time. He said he “didn’t expect that”. This is where it all went down hill… I told him that it was my first kiss and that I never had a boyfriend before… I was so naive I thought he would find this cute but admitting this had the opposite effect. He was very freaked out that I had never been in a relationship. He kept saying “no way you’re lying”. (He also mentioned that he wasnt seeing me as “dating” we were “just friends”.) He started to drift away little by little after I told him this. I asked him if I could be his girlfriend and he said “I don’t know, does this mean I can’t talk to other girls?”
He still asked me to come over and hang out so I did, but I couldn’t control myself in his presence. I was scared he would leave me and I didn’t want to be a virgin forever. We had oral sex twice. I got very emotional during it and I told him I “loved him” (I know i know i know that it was a bad decision) The second night he begged me to stay over with him but I told him that I didn’t have permission from my mom to stay out and I was using her car, also I assumed that deep down, he didn’t REALLY want me to stay, so I left. He stopped contacting me after this.
I tried to keep texting him. I would usually get a reply but sometimes I was ignored. I asked him if we could see each other again and he said “I don’t think that’s a good idea. I cant date anyone right now and I don’t think it’s right to keep up the friends with benefits thing. It’s too soon for me.” I apologized to him. I asked if we could still be friends and he said “sure, it’s going to be hard not trying to kiss you though. You didn’t do anything wrong.”
After that he deleted his facebook. I had no way to see what was going on in his life so I think I was starting to get over him but after a month his facebook was back up. We started talking a little but I could tell that he felt uncomfortable. I was later so desperate to see him again that I asked him to go and see a movie with me on my 22nd birthday because most of my friends were out of town for a convention. I realize this made me look like a HUGE LOSER to him and this probably blew any future chance of us getting together but my Mom sort of forced me to ask him out to go see a movie. She just wanted to see me happy on my birthday. The meet up was very awkward. He almost seemed like he was mad at me for some reason… trying to find a fault in everything I was saying to him. After this he ignored my text messages completely.
A few months went by and he texted me out of the blue. I was VERY surprised. He said he thought he saw me on the city bus. I told him “nope wasn’t me.” He started getting flirty with me again the way he used to. He asked how my life was going and I told him I was fine. I just got my first “real” job recently and I told him what it was (it wasn’t a very glamorous job), i guess he wasn’t impressed because he didn’t respond after that! We are still “friends” on facebook and he “likes” my facebook statuses quite frequently… this doesn’t help me get over him. (btw I got a new number so he can’t text me anymore.)
I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried to get over him but I just can’t, I really feel like he was “the one” but that may be because I’m a shy person and I don’t meet a lot of guys… My Dad says I should delete him from facebook but I can’t do that because if I unfriend him from facebook he will be gone FOREVER. Yet seeing him on my feed is a constant reminder of all the stupid mistakes I’ve made.
Lately though he has been commenting on some of my posts. Telling me to “hit him up” but when i messaged him i only got one response. He told me his new home was 5 houses down from the club i was at in the picture he saw me in…I later posted some artwork up, telling my friends that i have an art show coming up. He commented saying “will the paintings for sale?” I said yes but when i said where the show would be held he said “I have no way of getting out to that town but good luck with your showing!” I want to message him and tell him that I love him and miss him but he’s become a bit of an egotist on facebook boasting about how he’s having sex, posting selfies, adding new female friends everyday. I don’t want to get hurt again but I am SO obsessed with him. I know I should probably move on, but it’s hard to have hope that you’ll find someone new let alone better when you’re shy and insecure in yourself.
warren says
Trust me, forget that loser! You deserve much better and You Will get much better..he sounds like a real douche and you should recognise your worth & value..
Anonymous says
He seems to be a narcissist. Your dad is right, delete him. It will help You move on and meet the right man.
joy says
I’ve just recently had a break up with a boyfriend I’ve been with for 3 years. I really really need advice. He was my first boyfriend, this is my first true heartbreak and I’m struggling to know what to do.
I don’t want you all to just automatically say “it’s over, cut all ties with him”. Please read what I have to say.
My ex and I have broken up several times before this for the same reasons and decided this time is the real one because we need to address those problems we broke up over. He said he would get back together and he feels bad, but that he just knows he has to do this, and he says why get back together immediately if we’ll just break up again? I agree, we need to address the problems first. Although it was kind of both of us that wanted to break up at initially, now I’m the one wanting him more and he’s the one adamant to stay broken up. The actual reasons for breaking up were: at first it was because he felt we were too different, but we realised there were other reasons too: because we’re each other’s firsts so he wants to explore what else is out there + he loves me but is not IN love with me anymore.
I respect that the best thing for him really is to explore what else is out there. I think exploring what’s out there would make for a better relationship if we do ever get back together. He says we can be friends and I am like family to him.
I’m not sure whether we should stay friends (we kind of are now, still texting about casual stuff) or have a clean cut? Or have a break and then become friends again?
I have such conflicting thoughts. On one hand I feel that only if we break/cut will he realise what he’s lost – if I’m still around as a friend he won’t. But I also feel like if I leave his life he may never contact me again, because he’ll just forget me. [He actually told me that he has been struggling a bit whenever I get emotional about the break up and that as a coping mechanism he just gets rude and pushes me away. I’m worried that this side of him will cause him to just push me completely out of his life if we have a clean cut.] I don’t want to see him date others. But I’m also not prepared for the possibility he won’t contact me again. I’m also just not emotionally ready to just stop talking to him completely. I feel like it would be a waste of a friendship, after all those years getting to know someone well. If we can’t be lovers why can’t we just get along as friends? Maybe we should just have a break to let the emotions from the break up go away and then get back together as friends (with neither of us having emotions)?
I feel really heartbroken over him, I really do feel we have potential in the future. I feel this break up was needed, but I’m not sure what to actually do now that I’m going through it. Maybe I shouldn’t worry so much? Should I just stop texting and just leave it be, or do I have to come to an agreement with him on what to do?
chad longmire says
if you really want him to miss you you will need to cut all contact period. when he dont have his friend anymore he WILL then start chasing you 100% as soon as 1 week.
Emily says
I have been dating a man for 9 months, he chased me prior to this for 8 months but i wasn’t interested. After being dumped by someone else i gave him a chance and he grew on me.After our first date his x wife (they have been seperated for 2 years) started messaging me on facebook wanting to know where he was and for him to phone her as he was meant to have his kids. Their relationship was awful, she left him 3 times having numerous affairs and each time he took her back for the kids, 2 boys 16 and 15. We started dating things were good, i met his kids pretty quickly.
A few months into it she appeared from behind a bush when we were on the beach, glared at me and pulled him aside and started belting him this was to do with me and how she thought it was too soon for the kids to meet me.The kids saw it and told her they were ok with me. The step daughter was also there and said i dont know why she is carrying on she hasnt wanted him for 10 years, they were married for 20.The next day she withdrew $6k out of his account to get him back.Since then things were ok he said she would get better.Then met someone and backed off.His family dont speak to her they all hate her as she has caused so much trouble.He also comes from a unhealthy upbringing.Things got good with us. He is caring and lovely.My family love him.
About May of this year his eldest son started playing up. Smoking drugs at her house, she was never home. My partner trying to help. Things just got bad with us from then on, i started fighting with him about all this stuff. Sometimes he wouldnt be honest about what was going on with the kids and her and then i find out later. I felt he was lying to me.She wanted a settlement he gave it to her. The kid just got worse, he stole my partners wallet and didnt let on for 3 months after my partner found it after ramsacking his room for drugs. He even came to police station when it first happened to report it.My partner didnt discplined him he told his dad he found the wallet with no money in it, my partner believed him.Every time i saw my partner he was depressed.She would call a bit as well whilst we were together, blaming me for the kids behaviour and saying he wasnt spending enough time with his kids. Then my partners father got cancer he is now dying. The kid then got expelled after many suspensions.
We were up at my partners house a few weeks before the kid broke in and lied to his dad that he was there as i was in the house.The kid was also bad before he met me.Then my partner confronted his son about lying he slapped him and the kid pushed him through a glass door and punched him the mouth.He had to go to hospital.He didnt speak to his son for 2 weeks the wife never made the kid call his son to say sorry. My partner tried to text his son to tell him his grandad was dying no reply.I have also asked my partner to get a divorce he said he will but he hadnt thought of it even though he has paid her s out.We had huge argument about this. I told him to leave and he slept in car that night due to drinking.I always have to ring and apologise he wont speak to me for days.This particular fight he took the kid away, i tried to phone him that night he didnt answer he rang me the following morning.
He said he was working in the shed and drinking. The wife’s text said dont worry she is getting a divorce and for me to stop hassling him and from what he has said i sound like a stalker. How would she know i was ringing that night? This made me worry all week. We went away last weekend and i felt weird towards him gave him silent treatment he was trying to be nice. Next day i just did my own thing and he just disappears doesnt want to sort it out. Thats all i need though, comfort.he told me she said she wanted a divorce he said good cos lisa wants me to get one, what why couldnt he say i want one too.
Then my partners brother came over and his girlfriend they have similar issues and started arguing.i started crying i went to bed my partner came up didnt try and talk just shut door i said its over. he ignored me. i tried to talk to him later this turned into huge fight. i said this is not my baggage. he said dont you call me f kids baggage i didnt. he said my kids are no 1 you were level with them but not now. you have been awful to me all day. then he says she has been texting all day being nasty and threatening to turn oldest off him. we go to bed he doesnt talk to me in morning say’s its all too hard. not working. she sends me another text saying he is a liar awful he likes to hit things and that she was with him in that house a few weeks ago wonder why he wouldnt answer your calls.
I told him he said she will never let him be with anyone. after this he wont talk to me its been 5 days we had a holiday booked today he cancelled due to his dad on death bed. he said its not working you always fight with me i have never fought with anyone like this. he wont answer my calls. i dont know what to do now im so depressed i told him i missed him he asked y, he wont say he loves me, i dont understand as only 2 weeks ago he told me not to dump him and im the best thing that has ever happened to him.
erica says
My boyfriend and I dated for a little over a year. We fought over petty things, and his anxiety kicked in. He started getting anxiety attacks with every fight. We had one slightly larger than average fight and he dumped me saying he had no feelings for me and only saw me as a friend. It’s a little hard to believe that because he never gave me any warning, and he’s a social outcast and he’s highly emotionally unbalanced. He’s 23 and never had a girlfriend for more than 4 weeks. I stuck around for 13 months. Anyway. He hung out with a mutual friend, and out of the blue he asked about me and how I was doing. I told him I didn’t ever want to see his face again, but he is still assuming I will contact him and said “I don’t know what I’m gonna say when she contacts me!” He’s going out with friends and showing no signs of sorrow. If he’s over me romantically, why would he go around asking about how I’m doing?
I guess I should mention that right before the breakup, we took a break for about 5 days so we can get our minds together. We had a big fight that his parents were involved with since they overheard. Over those 5 days, he never said he loved me when I told him I loved him. But he seemed slightly optimistic we could work out. But he came down 5 days after we decided for a break and told me he doesn’t see me romantically anymore. When we broke up, I asked him if we could meet up in 2 months and see how we feel. He agreed, but then later that night went to his friend and told her space wont change anything. When he met up with a mutual friend and asked about me a week or so, he said that even though he knows I told him I dont want to see him ever again, that he doesnt know what he will say when I contact him in two months. I dont know if he’s holding onto those two months, but I don’t plan on ever contacting him.
One mutual friend asked my ex’s closest friend how he is doing, and he said he is doing “great” and that he thinks I’m pathetic for thinking we ever have a chance. My ex is running off and currently sleeping with an old booty call that is ENGAGED, and my ex drinks more now than when he did when I was with him. I hear stories all the time of how drunk he gets, and he seems to be wanting so much attention from his friends over the smallest situations. It’s hard to believe he already moved on so quickly, and all of this just seems desperate to bury me, which leads me to believe he still thinks about me and cares about me, but he has just convinced himself he doesn’t.
mccar says
hello how re you doing
Suman Roy says
yes I did it but my bf doesn’t easily gets jealous he’s a sturbon I don’t wat to do of him?????????