Mistake No.1: Begging Your Ex To Take You Back
More often than not, the very first thing they will do is to beg their ex to take them back. Time to wake up! IT WON’T FREAKING WORK.If begging works, no one will ever break up with anyone.
If your ex has decided to end the relationship, no amount of begging or pleading or using pity will get your ex to come back to you. It will only make you look insecure and needy. SO, stop it NOW if you ever want to get back with your ex.
Also, quit having the illusions that if you show your ex that you are miserable and cannot live without your ex, they will get back with you. Be self-conscious when you are thinking about using pity to get your ex back.
Believe me when I say this. No one is attracted to someone who is weak and miserable. And even if your ex came back because of all your begging and self-pity, do you really think it would last? It is only a matter of time before he/she breaks up with you again.
Mistake No.2: Calling & Messaging Them Constantly
A lot of people wonder why it is important NOT to contact your ex constantly if you want to get back with your ex. Their intuiton tells them that if I stop contacting my ex, they will soon forget about me and move on to a new relationship. Don’t let your intuitions screw with you. Does the scenario below sound familiar to you?
” I text him everyday but he barely replies. I have to message him a hundred times before he replies just once. I really love him and I can’t stop thinking about him. I just want things to be like what it used to be. But he is pulling away from me and ignoring my messages. Why is he behaving like a totally different person?”
Every time you call or text your ex, it just shows them you are needy and you are miserable without them. This neediness is unattractive and will only push your ex further away. It’s a BIG mistake to contact them even once
Also, you should NEVER drunk call your ex in the middle of the night and make a fool of yourself. So whenever you go out drinking, have a friend with you who can stop you from doing this.
But if I don’t call or text my ex, how can I get my ex back?
You should contact them in certain way that will make them feel attracted to you again. I explain exactly how to do this here.
Mistake No.3: Being a doormat!
You might probably be thinking if you just agree to everything your ex wants, you will get back together.
You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. You think it’s OK to let your ex walk all over you. You think it is okay to become a doormat. Because having your ex back in your life is the only thing that matters.
But, guess what?
Agreeing to everything your ex says is not going to bring them back. In fact, it’s only going to make your ex respect you less. Nobody wants to be with someone they don’t respect. And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person.
Mistake No.4: Showering Them with Attention & Love
Your instincts tell you that if your ex just realizes how much you love them and how much you care about them, they will come back. You just need to make them believe that no one in the world will ever love them the way you do. How can they reject you once they realize how much you love them, Right?
The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them. But they still decided to breakup. Showering them with affection is not going to help you. In fact, the more you smother them, the more trapped they’ll feel. And that will just make them want to get away from you as soon as possible.
Mistake No.5: Drowning yourself in self-abuse
It is much too common for people to drown in their sorrow with alcohol, drugs or anything of that nature.
This is NOT the time to start being self-destructive.
You need to be in the best shape you can be right now.This means eating healthy, exercising, getting out of the house etc. Substance abuse is not only bad for your body; it will only make you feel worse in the long-run.
Mistake No.6: Not Taking Action To Change Yourself for The Better
Doing is more powerful than talking.The best way to start changing yourself for the better is simply by doing
small things for yourself everyday.
These things could be:
- Losing weight
- Improving your finances
- Make yourself look attractive
- Treating yourself and the people around you with respect
- Taking steps each day to improve on your flaws
Simply saying you’ll change and things will be better does not equal being so.To show your ex you really are going to change, you need to start putting that change into action.