To attract guys and make them fall head over toes for you, we need to understand first what men really want.
1. To Feel Admired & Appreciated
Men want to feel admired. Men want to feel needed. Men want to protect the woman they are with. Nothing gives men more strength than a woman who makes them feel like a hero.
Women also buy into this stereotype that their men should be the provider. But too often, the ideal male image can sabotage a relationship. When women find their partner not quite living up to their expectation, they end up nagging, blaming and judging at all the things that men are not doing right.
By doing so, it will only make men feel undervalued and bitter. Once they feel they are not living up to the role they believe they should play in a relationship, they will leave you for someone who will make them feel admired and appreciated.
2. Acceptance & Support
There is always a boy inside every man, no matter how old your man gets. When they do something childish, we should learn to accept who they are, instead of getting mad at trivial things and asking him to grow up and be more mature.
The more you do that, the more it will make them pull away or feel like you are turning into their mother. And that is the last thing you want your man to think of you. Love him for who he is and accept his flaws because no one is perfect.
When you do that, he will feel it and appreciate it. And who doesn’t want to be with someone who can make them feel comfortable being who they are and not afraid of being judged?
Also, unconditional support from their woman means everything to men. It gives them strength and reason to continue doing what they want to do. It also makes them want to be a better and stronger person.
3. Be open & Share Your Feelings With Us
A lot of women don’t like to talk to men about their feelings because they are scared that it will hurt the relationship and drive men away.
Also, women have the tendency to think that their man just “know” what is on their mind. These women will be coy, indirect or drop hints in the hopes their man will just “get it”.
When their man cannot read their mind, the woman becomes grumpy and upset instead. If you find yourself doing this, do yourself and your man a favor and be direct and open about what it is on your mind.
The truth is when you don’t express yourself, men will be left wondering what is going on and they will never really get to know who you truly are. Every time you keep things to yourself, you are putting up walls in your relationship. That is the proven formula to push men away eventually.
4. Sex
Men think about sex almost every few seconds. So, it is important to understand what men really want when it comes to sex.
Based on interviews with thousands of men, we find that men really like it when you tell them how good it feels when they do something right. Also they feel really turned on when you surprise them by sending them naughty text or initiate new positions or try at a different place.
Trust me, when you make efforts to spice up things in the bedroom and make your sex life exciting, it will make men constantly think about you and all the fun stuff you two can do together.
5. Have Their Own Space
Being too needy, dependent and clingy on your man will only make him feel trapped. If a man feels trapped, he will build a feeling of resentment for the woman.
Trivial issues get blown out of proportion and eventually the man will be criticizing the woman’s every move as being too controlling. It is very important for men to have their own life and not feel tied down by a relationship.
Giving men space and let ting him hang out with his buddies will make him feel that they still can have their own identity and life even though they are in a relationship.
So, what do men look for in a woman?
- Self-Confidence
Nothing is sexier than a woman who is self-confident and comfortable in her own skin. If you caught yourself asking your boyfriend if you look fat or look pretty in this dress, you need to consciously stop yourself doing that. A self-confident woman doesn’t need other people’s reassurance that she is pretty and sexy.
- Smart
Starting every sentence with ” I am like.. ” or acting like a bimbo is a huge turn-off for men, at least he won’t take you seriously and just wants to have fun. What men look for in a girlfriend is a woman who is smart and has substance.
- Spontaneous
Spontaneity is very easily lost after a while. You will find yourself doing the same things and going to the same restaurant. Relationship life seems very repetitive and uninteresting. The spark was no longer there. So, don’t let spontaneity disappear from your life. Men are attracted to women who can do things spur-of-the-moment
- Funny and Playful
Men like girls who laugh at their jokes and play along with them. Girls who are serious about everything and nagging about small stuff all the time will slowly take the fun element out of the relationship. Also, men like girls who are funny. Witty repartee between you will help keep the spark in the relationship.
- Sensual & Sexy
Men are visually driven creatures, but it is not just the looks that make men attracted to you. It is more about the confidence and sexiness that you exude. It catches men’s attention when they see you. Get rid of the unflattering sweatpants and t-shirts. Dress yourself up in your sexy lingerie and high heels and be comfortable expressing your sensuality.
- Honest & Trust-worth
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. If a man cannot trust you, it is difficult for him to be serious about the relationship and see a future with you. So, be honest with him and build the trust between you because without trust, any relationship will not be able to withstand any tests or crisis.
Now, we look at some of the things that you can do to make him fall madly in love with you:
Love Yourself First
To love others, you need to learn to love yourself first. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect another person to love you?
It is a misconception that if you shower the guy with excessive love and affection, the guy will love you in return. It is actually not true. Guys often want something that they cannot have or hard to get. By giving him more, he will just take it for granted and get used to always be on the receiving end.
Make Him Miss You
Absence does make the heart grow fonder! Spending some time apart from each other helps remind him of how much he loves spending time with you! So every now and then, take some time out to hang out with friends or family and make him miss you.
Be His Best Friend
Flirting and teasing are important, but it is equally important to be a good friend to him, a friend who he can talk to about everything, good or bad. Love is not just about physical attraction but also about being best friends with one another too.
Laugh At His Jokes
Guys will feel very good when they can make women laugh at their jokes. If they see they can make you laugh, they will feel good about themselves and slowly associalte this feel good rush with you. They will love to hang out with you more.
Focus On Common Interests
You have your differences as well as common interests. Why not focus on your common interests and do things together that both of you enjoy? Remember, don’t fake interest to please him. It might work in the short term, but he will find out eventually.
Tracey Obinali says
Thnks so much. I’ll put all u said into practice.May God bless you for dedicating your time to help pple in relationships & also brings back peoples joy.
From Nigeria.
Debbie says
i have been in a relationship with my lover for more than 3 years until he told me he is no longer interested in this relationship it was like i was dreaming because i never expected it from him because we both where really in love he made me to realize that true love exist,i tried my possible best to get him back but i never found a solution
Aileen says
I met this guy online, we went on a date and then some more. Eventually we decided we really liked each other and said we’d only be together. It was official. I’m 22 and he’s 27 and he knew that but it made no difference, we got on great.
We were so happy! Dinner dates, he was planning the future like holidays, cinema, travelling….I even went flat viewing with him since he’s decided to buy his own place. We played tennis, went running together….it was awesome.
We were together 4 months. Recently he started to go in “moods” and just ignore me and if I was at his he’d make me feel like he didn’t want me there. One day he asked for space. I gave it to him but I was confused because the same night he said we’d book a table for dinner the next day blah blah it was normal. Then he just wanted space over the weekend. Then on the monday, he invited me over to his and he said he was stressed with work, flat hunting was going well and he’s not used to being in a relationship since his first one was for 5. 1/2 years and that ended when he was 23 i think. I was his second gf. I said he should have just talked to me and I’d have understood and given him the space he needed. Said it was nothing to do with me and I didn;t do anything. Then he was fine, back to normal.
Oh note he had a tendency to go into “moods” suddenly. Just shut me off, ignore me etc. Happened about 4-5 times.
Saw his this week at his, then met him on his lunch break on tuesday was fine…then last ngiht went over to his and it was again fine but then he just ignored me again! Then said he just wanted to chill….which is fine but he just acted like i wasn’t there, I sat with my laptop and did my own thing…then he said “ahh went in a mood again, i’m a moody bastard” as a joke then he was like come here…we hugged etc and it was fine then 10 minutes later…he changed!
Was so uncomfortable…to be with someone you really like and then they can make you feel so ****…he said ” do you mind if we call it a night” and we did but he said it as if he wanted me to leave but then he said stay since it was past midnight…I eventually left at 1am..i had to get out of there!
got home…received a text. “I think it’s best we go our separate ways” and apparently he broke up with me because he “doesn;t trust me” “this I did/said”. I had no indication the last few months that some things i said might have offended him etc…if he talked to me i would have thought ****…i;m being stupid shut up…but it was so out of the blue!! He said his trust was paper thin, we can’t fix it….I said i’ve been cheated on and wouldn’t dream of doing that to someone…he said ” i don’t believe you…it’s easy to say stuff like that”….i haven’t cheated on him or anything!! Like i’ve done NOTHING….I liked him so much, I wanted to be with him! he met my parents…my friends new about him…i opened up to him…i spend almost every weekend with him! I don’t go our partying cause of work and everyone i work with is 50+…. told him i like him, i cared about him…i was open with him about how i felt..
Just so confused!! How can someone say you;re a keeper, says he likes that i’m quirky and different… plans holidays in the up coming weeks then that same evening break up with you….I just want some help! Just to understand…he said we can’t work through this. It’s one thing you can;t work through.
someone just give it to me straight. Where do you think I went wrong? I can accept if i ****ed up but he didn’t explain what i did…how can i get over this…cause right now…I’m still in shock and I miss him and how he makes me laugh….
Michele says
I know it’s tough and this will be something that you never want to hear when you break up with someone who you thought you were happy with, but someone else will make you laugh and plan dates with you, but wait for the one who will do all those things and not leave you confused and in pain. If he makes you cry more than he makes you laugh, then he’s not the right man for you.
OLIVIA MIKE says
After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart.
Cedie Abellana says
why did yyour husband left you ?
maillot arsenal enfant says
Way cool! Some extremely valid points! I appreciate you writing this article plus the rest of the site is also really good.
maillot monaco 2014 says
What’s up, I check your blogs daily. Your story-telling style is witty, keep up the good work!
Freddy says
I see a lot of interesting posts on your page.
You have to spend a lot of time writing, i know how to save you a lot of
time, there is a tool that creates unique, google friendly posts in couple of seconds, just type in google – k2 unlimited content
Louise Hadley says
Thanks:)
Sarah says
Really love this post! Thanks for sharing with us!
Louise Hadley says
thanks!