It finally came where your ex tells you to give him/her some space.

The words you dreaded to hear finally came out of your ex’s mouth “I need space”.

It could even be communicated through a message, email, or sometimes even through mutual friends.

So, now that your ex has told you to give him/her space, what should you do?

Before telling you what to do, we want to first understand the whole meaning behind what your ex means by wanting some space.

You Have Probably Pushed Too Much

Chances are that the reason why your ex wants space is that you had probably been too pushy towards the end.

You may have been asking for a second chance…

Or forced your ex to make a decision…

Or even told your ex that you still love him/her.

When you do this, it adds lots of pressure on your ex and this lets your ex feel uncomfortable.

So you need to understand what is behind your ex’s mind when your ex says he/she needs space.

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The Psychology of Your Ex’s Mind

If you want your ex back, one thing that you must know is the psychology of your ex.

When your ex says he/she needs space…

What your ex really means is that your ex feels too suffocated now with you constantly pressuring him/her.

For your ex to reach this point, your ex must have been feeling too overwhelmed from what is happening in your relationship.

It’s possible that everything in your ex’s life is being affected as well.

Your ex probably can’t concentrate on his/her work, or can’t function properly in life…

And is just feeling very stressed because of the situation with you.

And if you continue to be in contact with your ex...

It would only make your ex want to pull further away from you.

That would be the mistake to avoid.

So, what should you do?

Agree To Give Space

This is going to be very counterintuitive because your instinct is to fight to get your ex back.

If your ex tells you to give him/her space, you take it as though that this is the end of the relationship.

But guess what?

The moment your ex was unhappy in the relationship, that was the end of the relationship already!

However, if you were to agree with your ex and give your ex space…

It would come as a shock to your ex because your ex wouldn’t probably be expecting you to agree to it so easily.

So, when you agree to give space to your ex…

What you’re doing is telling your ex that you have thought for his/her feelings.

And this will give your ex a positive feeling about you because it shows you understand your ex’s feelings.

So, what should you do now that you have given your ex space?

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Steps To Re-Attract Your Ex Again

This certainly is not the end-all or be-all of your relationship.

You certainly still have a chance to get your ex back.

By giving your ex space, you would also be allowing your ex to have the opportunity to miss you.

Step 1: Re-evaluate Your Relationship

This is the time to have a good think about your relationship.

There is a good reason why your relationship has gone south.

So, it’s important to look back into your relationship for clues.

What you need to understand is that ultimately a relationship comes to an end because your ex is not happy in the relationship…

Or that your ex not feeling the way he/she wants to feel in the relationship.

So you need to reflect in your relationship to find out why your relationship didn’t work out.

Ask yourself a few questions:

• Can you think of any reason why your ex is unhappy?
• What were some of the concerns that your ex raised in the relationship when with you?
• Can you think of a particular incident that changed your ex’s attitude towards you?
• What were the things that your ex told you that he/she didn’t like?
• What were the things your ex had told you to change?

Also, think back to the time when you first got together with your ex…

And then compare it to how you were towards the end of the relationship.

How were you different at the start of the relationship compared to at the end of it?

Had you been consistently showing your love and affection to your ex compared to the start of the relationship?

Then ask yourself honestly…

Had you done anything that contributed to the demise of your relationship?

All these questions are very important for you to find out what went wrong in your relationship…

Because this is the whole reason why you are no longer with your ex.

There is no point in getting back with your ex when the very problem that has gotten you into this mess in the first place remains unresolved.

If these fundamental problems in the relationship are not resolved…

Then chances are that you will still face a breakup even if you were to get back with your ex now.

This is also the reason why many couples constantly break up again and again even after getting back together.

Such relationships can never be lasting because the issue at hand is still unresolved.

Remember, we do not want to just band-aid the damage in the relationship.

We want to mend it for good, so it doesn’t resurface again.

Step 2: Work On Your Transformation

Now that you have figured out what is the problem with the relationship…

It’s time to work on your transformation.

And this is very important because right now, chances are that your ex still thinks that you will not change.

This is the perception your ex has of you.

And for your ex to want to be back with you, he/she needs to experience a change in you.

So, during this time, it is crucial to work on four key areas:

1) Mindset

That means the ability to get rid of the negative thoughts in your head about your situation…

And to be able to use your mind to change your negative thoughts into positive ones to feel positive despite what your situation is like right now.

If your ex says things to you that you don’t like to hear…

Can you take the time to understand why your ex said those things and then reframe the situation in your mind in a positive way?

More importantly, be confident enough to know that you have what it takes to win your ex back.

Ultimately, if you do not have the right mindset to approach your situation and your ex…

Then no matter how good a strategy can be to win your ex back, it would be futile because you wouldn’t have the right mindset to execute it.

When it comes to getting an ex back…

Mindset accounts for 80 percent of the success, while the actual strategies and tactics only account for 20 percent.

That means as long as you have the right mindset approaching your situation…

You would already have won half the battle to get your ex back.

But if you don’t have the right mindset approaching your ex…

Then you would have already lost half the battle even before you start trying to get your ex back.

Mindset is CRUCIAL to getting back your relationship and should be your priority to work on during this time.

2) Personality

That means the ability to not be affected by what your ex does or doesn’t do.

If your ex doesn’t reach out to you, would you be able to react positively?

And if your ex does reach out to you but says some things that made you feel negative, how would you respond?

Will you be constantly showing your ex that you are positive now compared to before?

Or will you still let your ex perceive you negatively from the things you say and do?

All these are very important because everything you say and do will either be perceived negatively or positively by your ex.

The more you let your ex perceive you positively, the better your chances to win your ex back.

3) Emotional Control

This is the ability to be in total control of your emotions regardless of what your ex is saying or doing…

Or NOT saying or doing.

If your ex said or did some things that made you feel very negative, would you be able to manage your emotions well and not respond in a negative way?

If your ex tells you that he/she is now dating someone, would you be able to not get emotional?

And if your ex tells you to stop contacting him/her, would you be able to stay calm and not become needy and emotional?

Emotional control is key to getting your ex back because if your ex sees you are still emotional…

It’s most likely going to push your ex away.

But if you can manage your emotions well and respond positively despite what your ex said to you…

Then that can have a positive effect on your ex and make your ex feel he/she may have been harsh to you.

4) Appearance

This is referring to how different you look compared to when your ex broke up with you.

A big part of Attraction comes down to how good you look.

If you look really good, it can help your ex remember why he/she fell in love with you in the first place.

And that feeling can spark your ex to want to try again.

Are you in your best look and shape since the breakup?

Have you lost or gained weight?

Can you look even better than when your ex first got together with you?

Now is the best time to work on your appearance as well because a change in appearance can signify a change in you.

And that can let your ex feel that things can be different if they get back with you again.

These four key areas are important for your ex to see you as attractive again.

And you aren’t going to get your ex back by talking your way back.

That will never work.

The only way to get your ex back is to attract your ex back to you.

Remember, your ex has to willingly want to be with you again.

So, by working on these three key areas, you will be able to make your ex fall for you again.

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Step 3: Begin In A Friendly Way

Next, you want to start in a friendly way when you reconnect with your ex.

The important thing is to not let your ex still think that you want him/her.

And that’s by starting as friends with your ex.

Starting as friends is the “backdoor” to your ex’s heart and can increase your chances of getting your ex back.

It plays a very important strategic role, and that is to get your ex to lower his/her defence towards you.

Only when your ex has her defences lowered towards you will he/she be okay to be in communication with you again.

So, the primary objective is not to talk about the relationship…

But rather re-establish communication in a very fun, friendly and light way.

And that is very important in getting your ex to want you again.

Step 4: Link Pleasure In Your Ex Towards You

The next step is to let your ex link pleasure to you.

What that means is to let your ex start to feel good because of you again.

You see, we all make decisions out of two core human needs in general:

1. The need to gain pleasure
2. The need to avoid pain

The reason why we want to eat the chocolate cake despite telling ourselves that we want to go on a diet is because…

At that point in time, eating cake is going to give us more pleasure than to not eat.

The reason why we do not follow up on our exercise regime is that the workout itself is quite tiring…

And can cause us to have muscle ache or back pain at the end of the day, and we link pain to that.

So, after some time, we stop exercising.

Similarly, the reason why your ex wants space is that your ex links pain to being with you at this moment.

That is why it’s important to get your ex to link pleasure towards you again.

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