One of the questions I often get is, “Will I ever hear from my ex again?”
And if your ex-boyfriend has suddenly contacted you out of the blue without you expecting it…
You might start to wonder…
What do I do?
What do I say to him?
And should I even stay in contact with him?
It has not been too long since your breakup with your ex-boyfriend.
You may have taken the advice that the best way to get back with your ex-boyfriend is to follow the no contact rule.
So far, you have been doing well and avoided all types of communication with your ex and concentrate on your own life.
But, suddenly your ex-boyfriend text or call you out of blue.
Your heart starts beating very fast and your palms are beginning to sweat.
You are very tempted to reply and tell him that you miss him and love him.
Before you do anything, you need to take a step back and figure out why your ex-boyfriend reaches out to you all of a sudden.
While there can be a possibility that he is reaching out to you because he wants to be with you again…
That’s not necessarily always the case.
There are many various other reasons why he might be reaching out to you…
And you want to first be clear on his intentions before telling him that you want him back.
This way, you can prevent yourself from getting hurt again.
If it is still a fresh breakup, then you need to take the contact with a pinch of salt because the emotions from your breakup have not settled yet…
And your ex’s emotions might not be stable and might fluctuate.
So why did your ex-boyfriend contact you out of the blue?
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Below are some possible reasons why your ex-boyfriend suddenly gets in touch:
Reason #1: Your Ex-Boyfriend Can’t Get Over You
Your ex-boyfriend who suddenly initiates contact for no apparent reason might be having problems getting over the breakup and moving on.
Since you have been in no contact for quite some time…
There is a possibility that he might be scared that you have already moved on without him.
And what that means is that he has been pretending to be over you all this while, but still loves you.
While this can be rare if he was the one that broke up with you…
It’s certainly still possible.
I’ve had many coaching clients who have told me that their ex suddenly contacted them out of the blue to ask them out for dinner.
And during the dinner date, their ex would express to them that they still have feelings for my clients.
So it’s certainly still possible.
Reason #2: Your Ex-Boyfriend Realized That The New Girl Isn’t Right For Him And Still Loves You
If your ex-boyfriend broke up with you because of another girl…
He might be reaching out to you after realizing that leaving you was a big mistake on his part and the new girl is completely wrong for him.
He could have also seen certain posts you made on your social media that made your ex jealous.
Sometimes, it takes losing someone to realize how important someone is to you.
Guys easily get distracted and make rash decisions such as giving up a long time stable relationship to be with an attractive girl whom he just met weeks ago.
As soon as he realizes that he and the new girl are not working out…
You are the first one that comes to his mind.
That’s because when your ex is with the new girl…
He is constantly comparing her with you.
And if he got together with the new girl not long after the breakup…
Then there’s a big chance that the girl is just a rebound.
And as you probably know by now, rebound relationships do not last.
Sometimes, it takes a rebound relationship to realize true love.
And in this case, if your ex-boyfriend is coming back to you after being with someone else…
This can lead to a stronger relationship if you do decide to take him back.
That’s because once he realizes that no other girl can give him the feeling like you do…
He will not want to leave again.
Reason #3: Your Ex-Boyfriend Genuinely Wants to Get Back With You
This might be one of the most common reasons why an ex-boyfriend suddenly contacts you shortly after the breakup.
He is still in love with you and wants to give your relationship a second try.
Depending on what kind of personality he has and also what is the reason for the breakup…
He might not be so straightforward with his intentions for contacting you.
That is when you need to know how to respond to his message or call.
We will talk about that in greater detail later on.
Also, I need to emphasize that an ex-boyfriend who really cares about you and genuinely wants to get back together…
Is willing to take baby steps toward working out your relationship problems and make a consistent effort in doing so.
You need to be wary when your ex makes impulsive declarations of never-ending love.
Passion is born out of need, and our emotional needs can change very quickly, especially in the case of a breakup.
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Reason #4: Your Ex-Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Lose His Friendship With You
Some of my friends are best friends with their ex now.
So, it might not be surprising that your ex-boyfriend might take his friendship with you very seriously because he can talk about almost everything with you and you get him in a way no one else ever does.
A romantic relationship might not work out between the two of you, but he is hoping that he can stay good friends with you.
This could be hard for you if you are not over him.
But, if you feel the same way as him, then it does no harm keeping him as a good friend.
Reason #5: Your Ex-Boyfriend Needs Your Help
This is unlikely but it is not impossible.
Maybe your ex-boyfriend needs a favor from you.
That explains why he contacts you out of blue.
In this case, it is entirely up to you if you want to help or not.
If you are not keen on doing him any favors, remember to turn him down politely.
On the other hand, if it has been quite s time since the last time you talked to your ex…
I can understand how surprised you might feel at first and then you start to wonder why your ex suddenly contacts you.
But if you still want your ex-boyfriend back, then this can be a good opportunity to let him feel positive towards you.
When you help someone, that person is often obliged to returning the favor.
While it may not necessarily mean he will get back with you…
When you help him and you continue to build up positive feelings in him over time through conversations with him…
It can let him reconsider getting back with you again.
Ultimately, we all want to be happy in the relationship.
And if the reason your breakup happened was that he was unhappy in the relationship with you…
Then by helping him, you are also letting him see that you are different than before…
And that can let him feel that if he gets back with you again, things might be different.
As long as you focus on making him feel good about himself, it can ultimately lead him to get back with you again.
Reason #6: Your Ex-Boyfriend Thought of You And Wanted to Know How You’re Doing
It is possible that something or someplace suddenly reminded your ex-boyfriend of you and he just wanted to reach out and see how you have been doing.
If your ex contacted you via a Facebook message or email, he could just want to catch up with you.
While this may not necessarily mean he wants to get back with you…
It is a positive sign that he has thought of you and even reached out to you.
In this case, it’s important to be very polite and friendly in your messages to him.
Keep the conversation light and do not talk about the relationship.
If he can think of you enough to reach out to you, it means that to a certain extent he still has some feelings for you.
And if you continue to build up positive feelings in him towards you from this point on…
It will let him remember how it was like when you two were happy in the relationship together.
That can spark his feelings for you again and may want to try the relationship with you again.
Reason #7: Your Ex-Boyfriend is Now Single And Wants to Get Back in Touch
Another possible reason might be that your ex-boyfriend is recently single again and he is looking to reconnect with you.
That means that he still thinks about you and might want to test waters first and see if you still have feelings for him.
This is very similar to Reason #6 and is a very positive sign that your ex-boyfriend wants to get back in touch with you again.
However, be wary of ex-boyfriends who might just try to have a quick fling with their exes.
Sometimes, it’s possible that he is feeling lonely…
And just wants some companionship.
This companionship might lead to wanting sex with you, but it does not necessarily mean he wants you back.
So, if his real intention is to have sex with you, should you have sex with him?
This can be quite a predicament because on one hand…
Having sex with him can let him remember the positive times you two had and that can lead him to want the relationship again.
But on the other hand, it might let him feel that you’re okay to be “Friends With Benefit”.
This would be the ultimate dream of many guys – to have sex without commitment.
So what should you do?
I suggest that it comes down to how you feel about this situation.
I’ve had coaching clients that want to have sex with their ex, so they don’t mind even if their ex asks.
But then, I’ve also had coaching clients that only want sex if their ex-boyfriend commits to them.
If you’re the same, then I suggest that you be clear on letting your ex know that he has to commit to you before you can have sex with them.
Ultimately, if your ex is just contacting you because he wants sex…
It’s better to let go of this ex than to pursue the relationship and get hurt later on down the road.
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Reason #8: Your Ex-Boyfriend is Unhappy in His Relationship & Looking For Someone To Talk To
You know that your ex-boyfriend is in a new relationship now.
Sometimes, guys prefer to talk to their exes when they are having trouble with their current relationships because guys seldom talk to their guy buddies about their feelings or their love life.
You were once the closest person to him, so it is much easier to for him to open up and talk about his issues.
Take note that in times like this, it is easy for you to let your guard down, and some girls have a thing for vulnerable guys.
Just remember that your ex has a girlfriend and doesn’t cross any lines.
So, here comes the question about how to reply to your ex-boyfriend when he contacts you out of blue.
If you are still thinking about getting back together, you should consider using the One Hour Rule…
The One Hour Rule
When you first got your ex’s text in a long time, you mustn’t reply to him right away.
Instead, you want to use the power of silence here to let him wait.
If you text him back right away…
You might likely say you still think about him or you wish you were still together.
I can understand that you might still feel that way about your ex.
But the thing is that you are not sure why he suddenly gets in touch and you have to find out why first before making a fool out of yourself…
And scare your ex away again by coming across as too needy and desperate.
So, that is why you need to wait for at least one hour before you reply him back.
This can give him the impression that you are busy with your own life…
And that you are not just waiting by the phone for him to contact you.
This is a very crucial step if you are thinking about getting back together.
If you feel that you might not be able to stop yourself from texting him back right away…
What you can do is to switch off your phone and then go out for a walk without your phone.
That way, you can also clear your head and gather your thoughts.
More importantly, it will help you demonstrate to him that you are not desperate for his attention.
Be Nice In Your Reply
I would advise you to send him back something that sort of mirrors what he said.
For example, if he asked how you have been in his text…
You can reply to him that you have been doing great and then ask the same question back.
Remember that this is not a good time to have a serious conversation, especially any topics related to your relationship.
More often than not, a guy texts his ex-girlfriend out of blue to say that he is thinking about her.
When you hear this, your heart might start to melt.
But, be warned that your ex-boyfriend might just want to find out if you are willing to hang out…
And he might not be looking for more of a fling than something serious because he is just feeling lonely.
So, if he did text you to say he misses you…
You should probably pretend you didn’t hear that and change the topic.
It goes to show him that you are being protective of yourself…
And you are not going to be influenced by what he said until you are certain he meant what he said.
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Be The First To End The Conversation
Even if you hope the conversation with your ex-boyfriend could go on for hours…
You have to end the conversation shortly after it starts.
Let me explain to you why you should do this.
First of all, you don’t want your primary way of communication to be text messaging or Whatsapp-ing.
That’s because it’s too impersonal and it’s also very convenient for him to say things that might not be sincere.
Besides, if you end the conversation first by suggesting that you need to be someplace now, or that you are busy at the moment…
It will give him the impression that he is not your top priority anymore.
Establishing this fact early in the reconnection process is important.
That’s because it sets the tone for the new connection you two may have.
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Dalita says
Hi there, so I dated this guy at work (I know, big mistake) for almost 3 weeks that felt like years. Everything was fine for the first week until it wasn’t anymore, he is a manipulative, proud, jealous and emotionally and phisically aggresive man. I ended the relationship and everything was fine, we agreed to be just and only friends, no sex involved. Apparently he didn’t think I was serious because he still tried to get me in bed, he failed. Then, he must have felt rejected/frustrated and showed up at my door unannounced (another big mistake: I opened the door) and said awful things, called me names, accused me, blamed me for the failure of our relationship and worst of all, wanted to “play” to hit me with a stick in a game he calls “lies”… Shortly after we broke up and a new girl at work arrived, he made a move with her, she rejected him and are friends now, but she got herself involved in our situation. After 5-6 weeks of no contact, he suddenly called me and I didn’t answer. Then, the next day, she calls me, I didn’t answer so she texted me with “how is everything?”… It’s not by chance that he called me, I don’t answer and then she calls the next day… What is he doing? What does he want? Why is she calling? What are they doing?
Val says
My husband left us for another woman in a different state an has never once called nothing no cards to his 3 kids we have together my youngest don’t even remember him and my oldest does she wa 5 when he left and come to find out he just broke up with his gf a month ago and I can’t figure out y he would ever contact me we were not on good terms
Bella says
I’m now 33 and last year I was seeing a guy for 9 months. We both had been single for a few years prior to this. We’re both the type who isn’t afraid of being alone until the right person comes along. He was studying and living about 2 hours away. I broke it off because I felt like he didn’t make enough time for me. He had to work all summer to pay for fees etc. I broke it off over the phone. He was absolutely shocked as he had thought we had a future together. I regretted my decision soon after, and tried to get him back. He said he couldn’t go back and feared that I would do the same thing somewhere down the line. And he wasn’t willing to take the risk, especially with so much at stake with Uni. I text him and emailed him a really long message once after that but he didn’t replay. In the new year, I text again this time he replied saying that he was on placement, and apologised for not responding, stating that it was his way of moving on. I found out from a friend that he had dated a girl for a few months later, but there wasn’t enough there to start a relationship.
He went away to a different country on placement, and when he returned six months later he text. He said he just wanted to know how things were going for me, and he wanted to give me his new number in case I had been trying to get in contact with him again. I told him that I hadn’t planned to get back in contact after I heard from him, and that he was moving on. I realized that I had to do the same. He replied saying that he didn’t know if he had moved on. I told him to be upfront and tell me why he had really contacted me. He asked if he could ring me, and I said yes. He rang and told me he had finished his course and wasn’t going to do an add-on year. He said was going to do some traveling, and that his buddy was thinking about going with him. He said that while he was away he had thought about ways of making things better for us, like moving to where I lived, but then he wouldn’t be fully happy. I didn’t tell him that I had had the same thoughts. I just listened to him. i had already said enough in my emails. He also said that it was really difficult for him to read it. He asked me what I doing and if I had decided to return to Uni again. I told him that I had plans to travel around South America for a few months.
After I told him this, the conversation came to an end quicker than expected. He said if he didn’t see me before I went, (there was never any talk about us considering to meet up), to have a safe trip.
I text and said that conversation was as hard as the day I had met him in an attempt to apologize for what I had done over the phone. I asked him to be truthful about why he was back in contact. I was honest saying I still thought about me every day, and added that it seems that little had changed for him.
He said he was sorry for being in contact, and did a full 360 saying it was sad things didn’t work but he guessed he had come to accept it. Also, adding that maybe my traveling will help things for me.
I told him to not contact me again, but soon realized that I was overdramatic. I wrote back saying I don’t want to leave things on bad terms and if we were ever to cross paths I hoped it would be on good terms. I wished him the best and left it at that. He replied saying that it meant a lot to him. He added that he wanted to know how I was and will always hope I’m doing well. He wished me a safe trip.
This was a month ago, I’m really trying to put it all to the back of my mind, but part of me wants to text him and ask him to meet up before we both go traveling to see if maybe we really are meant to be together. Friends tell me not to, as though this guy had cheated on me or was the one who broke it off. Most believe he should have taken me back. On the other hand, being as sensitive a character as him, I’m not sure I would have taken him back for fear of it being down again considering there was still two years left of Uni. My head, or pride. is telling me to stand leave well alone, that deep down I broke it off for a reason. And then my heart is telling me that maybe I expected it all to be all so perfect, and was being impatient.
Do I hold out and stay away, despite the daily internal conflict a of wanting to write to him and meet him before we both go traveling? Even before he got in contact. I was still always thinking about him, but was just waiting for it to pass. I had hoped that traveling may help. Although, for whatever reason it didn’t seem to help him. If he had just text asking how I was, without entertaining my comment about knowing I’d hear from him again when he had moved on, maybe I’d have felt different.
The worse part, is that I know exes, especially guys, don’t get in contact because they want to know how you’re doing as though you were friends for life.
Joey says
Hey, my boyfriend and I only dated for about 3 months and up until the time he contacted me, we hadn’t been speaking for almost 6 weeks. I’m still angry about the way things ended, simply because I didn’t see it coming and o fell in love with him quicker than I thought I would. He contacted me two days ago saying that he would like to visit me, I still love him but I don’t want him back. I keep telling him that he can come and visit but when he’s supposed to I give him the run around and tell him I’m busy. I’m not sure if I’m doing the right thing or not. I really need your help.
Thanks
Anna says
I’m in a similar situation. My ex was beautiful for three months and then literally turned into a jackass overnight and dumped me with no warning – in an incredibly disrespectful way. A couple of days ago (we’ve been apart, no contact, for four weeks) I got four missed calls from an unkown number (I deleted his number when we split), which really can only be from him.
I don’t know whether to text and find out if it was him and what he wanted … or to just take it as probable, spur of the moment, and another sign of his disrespect that he didn’t leave a message or try to text. The curiosity is maddening!
Like you, I still care for him but don’t want to get back together. I’m concerned that I’ll weaken if that’s what he wants, because I care.
faith says
hi, in relationship u should be careful ,,so if the guy doesn’t love u let him go and move on with ur life
Skylar says
Hi I date my ex for about two years . The breakup was just something that happened. We have been broken up for a little over a year. He just recently face timed me and I we talked and he just wanted to know how I was and kept talking about the past but he is currently in a relationship I think . Is there chance we get back together ???
jasmine c says
my ex boyfriend is currently in a relationship and been with his girlfriend for about a year now since we have broken up we have for whatever talked. his girlfriend doesnt like me and i had to cut off any communication with him, not for him but for myself. i blocked him from everything phone facebook instrgram. but he follows my friends. My friend posted a picture us facetiming he saw it and instead of commenting on the picture he says :”tell jazz i said hi” in her dms. Now my friend wanted to play with his head but i know him and he is a little to smart for that. My friend and my ex went back and forth for a while until i finally said”tell him you told me hi and that his wife wouldn’t like him speaking to me” He didn’t respond after that but he did read it Couldn’t help but wonder why he contact me knowing his girlfriend doesn’t like for whatever reason and he knows it would be a problem if she found out. Then i wondered why would he contact after he told people to tell me that he is happy and that i should find someone else. We havent spoken in months so my mind is all over the place i need answers please anybody?????
Lolla says
My ex boyfriend send me a msg on fb. He did send it im March 2016 and only got it in Aug 2016 by discovering the spam msg on my fb. He and his wife is separated for 8 months now. We had contact before the 10year but he got involved with a girl(wife/ex wife) and ask me not to msg him anymore. But after 10year he msg me. Never thought I’ll ever hear from him again in my life but after 10 years I got a big surprise . The best day for me in this hear. Chatting about all the good memories we had and stuff like that. Before he went overseas I was his ex girlfiend…….Is there a reason for this
Julie says
My ex boyfriend called me out of blue and he couldn’t talk anything , what I’ve realized it was love songs playing in the car. After the song finished, he answered the call that : He will call me soon, What sign is that
Cassey says
Hi please help
I broke up with my ex five months ago and right after breaking up he started seeing someone else,i just applied the no contact rule about a few weeks ago more like i was moving on and a few days ago he just came at my doorstep with a friend of his who happen to be a friend of mine too..but when i opened the door he just run away. He havent contacted me before or after he came at my place vai text or anything. but our mutaul keeps asking wether i hve moved on or not?.I just dont know how to interpret his actions?..please help
Frida says
Im no professional but during the no contact rule, mutual friends between both parties are used as a way of your ex checking up on you. They use this chance to find out if you have moved on or if your doing fine without him. I know from personal experience that I ask my friends whether my ex is happier without me and they tell me what’s going on.
winter says
What if your ex wants to have a vacation with you?
We don’t get contact for almost 4 years and then he message me saying he wants to have a vacation with me.
jordan seitz says
My ex boyfriend who at the time i considered my best friend broke up with me almost a year ago. Months after the break up he would tell me that he wanted to work things out but would stop contact as soon as I tried to make plans for us to meet. He would poke at me on social media and text me here and there but every time I would ask him what his motives were he would blow me off by not saying anything which would put me in the crazy limbo state. I decided to delete everything facebook, phone numbers, text messages because i felt like i was starting to go crazy. We ran into each other at a going away party for a mutal friend I stayed away from him but he came over to me anyway and asked why I was avoiding him. I told him why and then he kissed me. I thought all was forgiven and we were getting back together so we went back to his place and we slept together and he told me he still loved me. I never heard from this guy again and It was like getting stuck with a knife in my side I So 5 months later I feel like Im doing ok and Im just really focused on my career and dating has kind of taken a backseat in my life for now , dont get me wrong it still hurts but the world hasn’t stopped but at 1am last week I get a text message from him
the guy: How’s it going?
me: I got a new phone …. who is this?
the guy: Nevermind
me: Um, ok have a nice night.
the guy: Its (his name)
me: (his last name)?
I really couldn’t believe it was him
the guy: Ya, nevermind goodnight
me: Alright, take care
i also still really care about him despite the emotional rollercoaster ride he had me on. In the last few months Ive had alot of success at work besides social media I have been on TV and in the news papers and alot of people that i havent seen or heard from in years are starting to come out of the wood work including ex boyfriends but this one is a little different. I wonder if i did the right thing by not trying to engage with him any further beyond that point or asking him what he wanted. I just really don’t want to be taken for a ride again. My head says to leave it alone but my heart wants me to say “Im sorry, Its just been a while. how are you doing.” its a tough spot to be in and Im wondering if my chosing to do nothing is the right thing or if i should open up communication with him again (because unfortuneatly i really do want to).
Veronica says
My ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue after a year of us not speaking. We broke up because I moved and while we were together he rarely showed me that he cared. He was always to busy for me the entire relationship. So I informed the day before my move that I was actually moving. I knew this would hurt him but I didn’t really care because of the way I was treated. After I moved he would shoot me a text hear and there then it stopped. After a year in the afternoon he texted me. I was a work so I didn’t see the text until 3 hours later (bonus). I texted him I was doing fine and he said he missed me. I ignored it and changed the subject about how well I was doing at my new job. He genuinely seemed impressed he stated that he missed being with me. I said he can visit me when he’s free. I ended up moving closer to the city he lived in. A few months later he texted me again. Note I’m never rude when we have these random conversation. I explained I moved closer to him and he asked my permission to come visit me. I agreed. Finally we ended up getting back together and things are better than ever. It’s true men don’t realize what they have until it’s gone. My ex admitted to me that he was really hurt when I moved without really telling him and he never felt right ever since. When he experienced life without me he truly saw what he was missing. Now he goes above and beyond not to make the same mistakes he’s made in the past and is much more attentive and caring. Side note: if your ex texts u out of the blue late at night it’s a booty call. My ex always texted me in the middle of the day and I knew he wasn’t just wanting quick ass because we lived hours away.
Anonymous says
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vivian says
I dated my ex boyfriend for 3.5 years. In October, i was feeling bored and hastily made the decision to break up with him. Almost immediately I started dating someone else else, which I know it was cruel of me. I have broken up with my rebound guy and it has been about six months since the original breakup. In February I sent him a letter saying i still loved him and felt empty without him In my life. He responded by saying he loved our relationship but it was over. Then about a month later he blocked me on Facebook out of nowhere. He has texted me a few times with nothing to say. I miss him still terribly and feel like a horrible person for breaking his heart in the first place. Is there any chance of us being together? Why would he be texting me if he’s blocked me on all social media?
Anonymous says
Hi, I have been dating a guy since last 2 years. He was the one who approached me, chased me but never committed me to get married except for oncE. Now after I expressed my desired to get married he said he is commitment phobic guy and has no wish to get married in future. He finally broke up with me as it was getting impossible for us to get along because of this issue. We have had a great time together which he agrees. He also agrees that he tried to Change his mind about marriage but nothing helps him. He says he doesn’t want to waste my time and it was better for me that I go away from a guy like him who can never love anyone to get married.
Its been 3 days that we broke up, he has promised me to be friends and help me over come bad ttime…he msged me oNce in a day…
He has a history of short relationship, troubled childhood.
He says I was the only girl in his for whom he has cared and all other relationships have been worst.
I am trying to keep myself away from him to give him time to think..will he ever come back?
j says
Sounds like the guy has commitment issues but bottom line you have to consider is this the ONLY issue? The way i see it is we are in relationships because we enjoy the time we spend with that person. I don’t think the guy is afraid of you i just think he is afraid of forever. Forever is a scary word for guys. Would you be ok if you guys were together forever without getting married is he worth it to you without the church, champane and the white dress? Sometimes we have to sacrifice things in order to make room for the needs of ourselves and others. We also have to remember that guys are big babies who don’t like to be put under pressure and really don’t like to admit they are wrong. be paitent. Instead of condeming his midset try to understand why he is afraid to commit. But waiting for someone to come back and commit is the key to having a nervous breakdown no guy will actually do things the way we want them to do them (like folding laundry for example they just throw everything in the drawer) allow yourself time to reflect and tell him how you
sarah says
hey vivian, i can relate to that but i think the best you can ever do is not to allow your emotions override your wisdom. Pray to God if it is really best to get back both of you together or to pick up the pieces of yourself first to be whole again. i have been that situation and i realize that the Lord will give you a man who is set apart for you. you only need to be still and listen to his guidance.
i hope your love life will be filled with great testimonies of inspiration for everyone.
Mary says
I hope you have forgotten about this guy and have moved on. Men run further away, when being chased. Also, why would you want to waste your time chasing someone who’s not crazy about you? I hope you have found a guy who has not given you any reason to break up with him. If not, no worries, keep dating. Or, just enjoy your life, doing what you love to do and eventually you’ll meet a great guy, who shares the same interests as you. And if you never find a great guy, so what? Just live your life the best you can and have fun being single.