Have you ever wondered, “Will I ever hear from my ex again?”

If you have, then you’re not alone.

In fact, this is one of the most pressing questions that my coaching clients ask me as well.

And I know you’re hoping to hear a straight answer like “Yes” or “No”.

However, it’s not that simple.

After working with my clients for over 10 years, I found out that what determines whether you will hear from your ex again largely depends on your situation:

• Whether you’re blocked by your ex
• How much time has passed since your breakup
• Whether you had a nasty or peaceful breakup
• Do you both have mutual friends
• Does your ex have someone new

Now, it’s very likely that you may have a combination of the above situations.

So what if you’re in one situation that suggests that you are likely to hear from your ex again, and also in another situation that suggests that you’re not likely to hear from your ex?

Therefore for the sake of simplicity, I will use a point system to give you an overall score.

And since there are a total of five situations that are listed above, that means the maximum point that you can get would be 5 points.

So if you have a score of zero points, then it means that the chances of you hearing from your ex again is low.

But it doesn’t mean that you have zero chance of hearing from your ex…

It just means that the likelihood of your ex reaching out to you is low.

On the other hand, if you have a score of 5 points, that also doesn’t mean that you are guaranteed to hear from your ex.

It just means that the likelihood of your ex reaching out to you is higher.

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Will I ever hear from my ex again if I’m blocked?

Sadly to say, if you’re blocked, then the chances of you hearing from your ex is very low.

That’s because if you’re blocked, it suggests that your ex is already feeling very negative towards you and that he/she felt the need to block you.

You might have said nasty things to your ex during or after the breakup…

Or, you might have continually tried to ask your ex for a second chance to the point it annoyed your ex to the point of blocking you.

Or, it could just be that your ex has someone new and that person told your ex to block you.

But that doesn’t necessarily mean that your ex won’t unblock you in the future and reach out to you again.

In fact, I’ve had many coaching clients that were blocked by their exes when they first took up my coaching, but ended up with their ex unblocking them and talking to them again.

How to increase your chances of hearing from your ex if you’re blocked

For example, I had a client who when she first took up my coaching, said this:

After the breakup I tried to ask for a second chance, cried, and asked him to reconsider his decision for 2 weeks. During the 2 weeks I kept calling him and texting him to plead with him. After that, he told me to stop contacting him and blocked me.

After giving some time and space to her ex, I worked with her to write a customised letter to her ex and she sent that letter to her ex’s Email.

The letter was to address specific things that happened in the relationship in a light manner and to also validate her ex’s feelings.

More importantly, the letter let her ex feel comfortable towards her again, and it let her ex feel that she won’t try to keep asking for a second chance.

And when her ex read that letter, this was what my client said:

My ex replied! He said thank you and he appreciated the letter.

This led to her communicating with her ex again.

You see, many people think that by talking about the relationship with their ex they can get their ex back.

But the truth is that you can’t talk your way back into a relationship.

You have to first let your ex feel comfortable communicating with you in a light, fun and positive way…

Then your ex can gradually start to feel attracted to you again.

Remember, YOU already have the qualities that your ex is attracted to.

That is why your ex got together with you in the first place!

So you need to remember how you were at the start of the relationship that got your ex to want to be with you in the first place.

And then eliminate everything that caused your ex to feel pain and hurt in the relationship.

When you do that, your ex can then gradually become attracted to the version of you that he/she first got together with.

Your Score

So if you’re blocked, then you scored zero points here.

And if you’re not blocked, then you scored one point here.

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Will I ever hear from my ex again if it’s been a long time since our breakup?

Contrary to what you may believe, you actually have a better chance of hearing from your ex if it’s been a long time since you two broke up.

That’s because the negative feelings that caused the breakup in the first place would have gradually diminished over time.

You see, right after a breakup, any negative feelings your ex has towards you are at their strongest.

These are feelings like:

• Hurt
• Anger
• Feeling betrayed
• Insecurity
• Jealousy
• Loss of trust
• Frustration
• Vengeful
• Disgust
• Feeling of incompatibility
• And other negative feelings

These are all intense feelings that greatly affect your ex’s perception of you.

So if you were to understand the stages of a breakup for dumpers, you will realize that your ex is at the stage of Relief after the breakup.

This is the stage where your ex is feeling relieved that he/she is no longer in a relationship with you.

During this time, your ex most likely couldn’t be happier to be away from you.

So there is a lesser chance that your ex would reach out to you if your breakup was recent.

So how long ago does your breakup have to be, to be considered recent?

Again, this depends on how bad your breakup was.

The nastier your breakup, the longer it takes for your ex to be willing to reach out to you again (some exes never reach out again).

And the more pleasant and peaceful your breakup was, the shorter it takes for your ex to be willing to reach out to you again.

In general, I would consider your breakup to be recent if the breakup happened less than six months ago.

How to increase your chances of hearing from your ex

For this situation, it’s rather simple.

If your breakup happened less than six months ago, then all you have to do is just wait till six months have passed.

And if your breakup happened more than six months ago, but your ex still hasn’t reached out, then you can try reaching out to your ex.

But you don’t want to reach out and say something silly like:

Hey, I just saw something today that reminded me of you. Hope you’re well.

This is a mistake that many people make when reaching out to their ex.

That’s because sending a message like this will let your ex think that you still can’t get over him/her.

And if your ex still feels negative towards you, then such a message would only “fall on deaf ears“.

A better approach would be to “test the waters” and send a message that doesn’t remind your ex of the relationship.

That’s what I help my coaching clients with.

I first determine my clients’ exes’ psychology, then from there determine the best type of message to their ex.

This way you can get the highest chance of getting a response from your ex.

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Your Score

So if your breakup happened less than six months ago, then you scored zero points here.

And if your breakup happened more than six months ago, then you scored one point here.

Will I ever hear from my ex again if I had a nasty breakup?

I’m pretty sure you know the answer to this one.

If your breakup was a nasty one, then there’s a lesser chance that your ex will want to reach out to you.

And by “nasty”, it means your breakup involved any of the following:

• Fighting
• Arguing
• Quarrelling
• Physical abuse
• Verbal abuse
• Screaming and shouting
• Threatening

But that doesn’t mean that there’s no chance of hearing from your ex.

For example, I have a coaching client that had a nasty breakup.

And this was what she said of the breakup:

We were on a trip and we had been arguing non-stop on the trip and when we got back from the trip he said he was going to see his sick mother.

It was almost midnight when we returned and I said I don’t feel well and asked if he could go tomorrow and he said he didn’t care.

That’s when I pushed him and said, “Now you don’t care after having sex with me. Am I just a piece of meat? I also called him nasty names afterwards.”

Then he pushed the shoe rack and then I bit his arm and he ran off. He said yesterday that he broke up coz it got physical.

So as you can see, a pretty nasty breakup.

However, after the breakup, she apologised for her actions and for saying those nasty things to him.

While her ex still didn’t want to get back with her, she at least could still communicate with her ex.

How to increase your chances of hearing from your ex after a nasty breakup

So if you want to increase your chances of your ex reaching out to you, then the first step is to apologise to your ex if you haven’t already done so.

This is of course if YOU were the one that caused the nasty breakup.

If your ex was the one that caused the nasty breakup, then you might reconsider whether you want to get back with him/her.

But what if you’ve already apologised?

Then this largely depends on how the very last communication with your ex went.

If the last contact you had with your ex ended on a positive note, then you can consider reaching out to your ex.

But if the last contact ended negatively, then you might want to let some time pass before reaching out to your ex.

Your Score

If your breakup was a nasty one, then you scored zero points here.

If your breakup was a pleasant and peaceful one, then you scored one point here.

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Will I ever hear from my ex again if we have mutual friends?

If you have mutual friends with your ex, then this does increase your chances of your ex reaching out to you.

That’s because if your mutual friends are still in contact with both you and him/her, your mutual friends could happen to talk about you when your ex is around.

And that can get your ex to think about you and possibly reach out to you.

For example, I have a coaching client whose ex’s friends like her.

This is what my coaching client said:

His friends absolutely love me and still want me to visit because they’re also his room mates.

And since her ex’s friends like her, they would occasionally talk about her and sometimes even tease her ex about her.

That made her ex reach out every now and then.

How to increase your chances of hearing from your ex

If you don’t have any mutual friends with your ex, then unfortunately there’s not much you can do here.

But if you and your ex have mutual friends, then you subtly ask these friends about your ex.

You could even mention exciting things about your life that could trigger them to tell your ex about it.

This can incite curiosity in your ex towards you and reach out to you.

Alternatively, you could pass an item to your mutual friends to pass to your ex.

For example, I had a coaching client who told his mutual friends to pass some sweets to his ex.

When his ex got the sweets, she reached out to thank him.

So if you do have mutual friends with your ex, that can increase your chances of hearing from your ex.

Your Score

If you don’t have mutual friends with your ex, then you scored zero points here.

If you have mutual friends with your ex, then you scored one point here.

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Will I ever hear from my ex again if my ex has someone new?

If your ex has someone new, then your ex would most likely be occupied with that person and would less likely reach out to you.

Many times, when we’re in a new relationship, we don’t even think about our ex.

For example, when you were still together with your ex, did you think of your previous ex?

Most likely not.

However, does this mean that all hope is lost and you will never hear from your ex again?

Not necessarily.

That’s because all relationships go through two main phases.

I call them the “Honeymoon Phase”, and the “Reality-Check Phase”.

I’m sure you know what’s the Honeymoon Phase.

It’s the time when two people first got together.

Everything is nice, sweet and going smoothly.

Even the things that annoy you about your ex would seem fine to you in the Honeymoon Phase.

But once you’re out of the Honeymoon Phase, that’s when all the issues start to surface.

That’s what I call the “Reality-Check Phase”.

And this phase is all about giving you a reality check that not everything is as you had expected.

It’s in this phase that fights happen, arguments become more frequent, and differences start to show up.

How to increase your chances of hearing from your ex

The only thing you can do here is to wait for your ex to get into the Reality-Check Phase of their relationship with that new person.

I’ve had clients whose ex reached out to them because their ex just fought with this new person.

For example, I had a client who had a rather unpleasant breakup with his ex.

And right after the breakup, his ex found someone new.

During that time, my client had tried to get in contact with his ex.

But his ex told him this:

Please stop contacting me. I’ve found someone and would appreciate if you can respect my wish.

Needless to say, this message deeply hurt my client.

But more than half a year went by and his ex one day reached out to him with this:

Hi, how are you?

It turned out that his ex was in a rough patch with this new guy and interestingly enough, she started sharing the problems in this new relationship.

So as you can see, even if your ex is with someone new now, there’s still a chance that you could hear from your ex.

With that said, you obviously would still have a better chance of hearing from your ex if your ex is still single.

Your Score

If your ex is in a new relationship, then you scored zero points here.

If your ex isn’t in a new relationship, then you scored one point here.

What’s your score?

Did you manage to get a full 5 points?

Or did you get somewhere between 1 -4 points?

Or did you end up getting a whopping zero points? (If you did get zero points, don’t get discouraged! I’ve had clients who were also in the same situations and still managed to get in contact with their ex again.)

So write your score in the comments below. I’m excited to know what your score is!

But regardless of your score, do understand that this is just a probability measurement.

It does not mean that if you get 5 points you will surely hear from your ex.

Neither does it mean that if you get zero points you will not hear from your ex.

There are still many factors that can influence whether your ex reaches out to you or not.

Remember, it ain’t over until the fat lady sings!

Your Next Step

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