Are you wondering, “Will my ex come back to me ever again?”
If you are, then I’ve got good and bad news for you.
The good news is that after coaching my clients for over a decade, I can tell you for certain that exes DO get back with their ex-lovers again.
In fact, I have success stories every month of my coaching clients getting back with their exes.
But there’s also bad news.
Are you ready for it?
The bad news is that your ex will only come back to you IF you do the RIGHT things from here onwards.
If you do the wrong things from here on, then unfortunately your ex most likely will not come back to you again.
Right now, you can know the course of action that your ex will take by simply knowing what course of action YOU will take.
In this article, I’ll answer some of the most common questions that my coaching clients and subscribers ask, so you will understand your situation better.
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How likely will an ex come back?
This really depends on several factors.
Here are a few factors that can help you determine the likelihood of your ex coming back.
Factor #1: How did your breakup end?
Was your breakup a nasty one?
Or was it a pleasant breakup?
If your breakup was a pretty bad one with lots of fighting and quarrelling, then chances are that your ex may still harbor negative feelings towards you.
After all, if we feel negative towards someone, it will be harder for us to want to be with that person again.
But if your breakup was a pleasant one, where you both said your goodbyes and wished each other well…
Then there’s a good chance your ex could still miss you and that could eventually lead to your ex wanting to come back.
Now, this is just a general rule of thumb.
But I’ve had coaching clients who had a bad breakup and still ended up getting back together.
On the other hand, I also have clients who had a pleasant breakup but are no longer in contact with each other.
So even if you had a bad breakup, it doesn’t mean your ex will never come back to you.
This is just one of the factors.
Factor #2: What was the reason for your breakup?
Do you know what was the real reason for the breakup?
If you don’t know the real reason, then it can be hard for your ex to come back to you.
That’s because if you don’t know the problem that caused your relationship to break down in the first place, that means the problem will still be in the relationship even if your ex comes back to you.
But if you already know the real reason why your ex broke up with you…
Then is the problem fixable?
More often than not, the reason your ex broke up with you is that things in the relationship have changed from how it was at the start.
More specifically, your ex most likely thinks that YOU have changed.
For example, you became more argumentative and started fights with your ex when you never did at the start of the relationship.
Or, you became less loving and caring towards your ex and that made your ex feel unloved and unappreciated.
Ultimately, only when your ex believes you have changed then can your ex start reconsidering coming back to you again.
Factor #3: Are you both still in contact?
Communication is key if you want your ex to come back to you.
That’s because it’s through communication that you can get your ex to feel positive towards you again.
It’s through communication that you can get let your ex feel good about himself/herself.
And only when your ex feels good, can he/she want you back.
If you think about it, the reason your ex got back with you in the first place is that your ex felt positive when he/she was around you in the beginning.
So if you can let your ex feel positive through any form of communication you have with him/her, it will increase the chances of your ex coming back to you.
Factor #4: Are you blocked by your ex?
Needless to say, if you’re blocked by your ex, then it’s harder for your ex to come back to you.
The fact that your ex has blocked you means that your ex feels extremely negative towards you to feel the need to block you from contacting him/her.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t get your ex to unblock you.
I’ve had many coaching clients that were initially blocked by their ex, but managed to get their ex to unblock them in the end.
So you can get unblocked by your ex if you do the right things from here on.
Therefore if you’re blocked now, your focus should be on getting yourself unblocked first.
Only once you’ve been unblocked, then there’s a chance your ex will come back to you.
Factor #5: Is your ex with someone new?
If your ex is with someone new, then it’s harder for your ex to come back.
Your ex’s time will primarily be preoccupied with his/her new relationship.
But that doesn’t mean your ex won’t come back if your ex is with someone new.
It depends on which phase your ex is in the new relationship.
If your ex is in the Honeymoon Phase, where everything is all nice and good, then there’s a lesser chance your ex will come back to you.
But if your ex has passed the Honeymoon Phase and is now in the Reality-Check Phase, where problems and differences start coming up…
Then there’s certainly a chance for your ex to come back.
That’s because when problems arise, your ex may start to compare the new relationship with the relationship with you.
And if your ex gradually becomes unhappy and unsatisfied in the new relationship…
It can get your ex to think of you and may come back to you again.
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How do you know if your ex will come back?
There are a number of signs that can show that your ex will eventually come back.
The most powerful sign is that your ex will start contacting you more and more often.
It can be similar to how it was when you two first dated.
Everything is nice, light and fun.
Your conversations are longer and you both just want to talk to each other.
That’s the clearest sign that your ex will come back to you.
Another sign that will let you know if your ex will eventually come back is when your ex starts talking about the past.
This shows that your ex had been thinking of you and the times you two were together.
And that can lead to your ex wanting you back.
Ultimately, the sign that indicates to you whether your ex has a CHANCE to come back to you is if your ex is still willing to communicate with you.
As mentioned above, communication is important to get your ex to come back to you.
So if you aren’t in contact with your ex at the moment, then your focus should be to get back in communication with him/her.
How long does it take for an ex to come back?
This is one of the biggest questions I get all the time.
And the answer comes down to whether you’re currently in contact with your ex.
If you’re currently in contact with your ex, then on average, it takes roughly 3 to 6 months for your ex to come back.
That’s just on average.
That means it can take shorter than that time frame.
But it can also take longer than that time frame.
Ultimately, each situation is unique and different in its own way.
But 3 to 6 months is the average time it takes for my coaching clients to get their ex back when they are still in contact with their ex.
What if you’re not in contact with your ex?
Then it will take longer because you have to first find a way to re-establish contact with your ex first.
On average, it takes my coaching clients 6 – 12 months for their ex to come back when they are not in contact with their ex.
And again, that’s the average.
Some of my clients were able to get back with their ex much faster than that time frame because they were able to very quickly get back in contact with their ex.
Simply put, the faster you can get back in contact with your ex, the shorter time it takes for your ex to come back to you.
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What can you do to increase the chances of your ex coming back?
The good news is that there are things that you can do to increase the chances of your ex eventually coming back to you.
And I want to share with you a few powerful tips that you can use today to help you increase your chances.
Tip #1: Let your ex feel good about himself/herself
We all like someone who makes us feel good about ourselves.
That’s also probably the reason why you got together with your ex.
Your ex most likely made you feel good and positive about yourself.
And that’s why you want to be around him/her at the start.
So when you let your ex feel good about himself/herself, it will in turn let your ex feel good about you!
And that can lead your ex to eventually come back to you.
Tip #2: Make yourself look good
If you want anyone to like you and want you, then you need to attract that person to you.
And attraction comes in two forms:
- Physical Attraction
- Emotional Attraction
But the very first form of attraction is through that person’s eyes.
And that means Physical Attraction.
That’s most likely how your ex got attracted to you in the first place.
Something about your appearance at the start caught your ex’s attention towards you.
And we know that you are your ex’s type in terms of looks because your ex got together with you!
So a powerful way to attract your ex’s attention towards you again is to look really good (if not better than before)!
That means going to the gym and workout to get into shape.
It also means getting new clothes that accentuate your body and make you look good.
And it also means making sure you look good whenever you know there’s a chance your ex might see you (in pictures, videos or in person).
Tip #3: Keep any conversations with your ex light and fun
Whenever people have a chance to have any form of communication with their ex, the mistake they make is to talk about the relationship.
They think that by talking about the relationship, their ex will eventually want to come back.
But that does just the opposite.
By talking about the relationship, it can only further push your ex away.
I’ve had coaching clients that manage to re-establish communication with their ex again through my coaching.
But then mess it up by talking about the relationship with their ex, and that pushed their ex away.
Don’t make that mistake.
Instead, make your conversations with your ex light and fun.
And if possible, make your ex laugh.
When we laugh, we release endorphins through our bodies.
Endorphins are what we call “feel good” feelings.
And when you make your ex laugh, the “feel good” feelings will be associated with you.
That will let your ex feel good each time you have contact with him/her.
And that can get your ex to look forward to wanting more conversations with you.
Tip #4: Genuinely give compliments and validate your ex whenever you can
We love it when people compliment us and validate the things we say.
And your ex will certainly love it as well when you do the same to him/her!
The key is to do it genuinely.
For example, don’t say things like:
Wow, you are so smart and amazing!
That can come off a little too obvious in trying too hard to give compliments to your ex.
It could even have the opposite effect that can make your ex suspicious as to why you’re complimenting him/her when you hardly did that in the past.
Instead, make your compliments subtle like this:
Now, why didn’t I think of that. That’s actually a really smart idea. I can see how that would make the room look really good [or whatever the subject topic is about].”
Notice how subtle it is but at the same time praising your ex.
This can really let your ex feel good towards you and feel good about himself/herself too.
Tip #5: Be consistently filling your ex’s cup
This is an analogy that I always tell my coaching clients:
Imagine that your ex is holding an empty cup.
Each time you link pleasure to your ex, that cup will be filled little by little.
And each time you make your ex link pain to you, that cup will be emptied.
Your goal is to make that cup overflow.
This is an analogy that you want to keep in mind at all times as well.
Too often people get impatient and rush the process to get their ex back.
When you get impatient, your ex can feel it.
And when your ex feels it, it will show your ex that you haven’t really changed.
Impatience will only let your ex feel you’re concerned about your own feelings.
And that will let your ex feel reinforced in his/her decision to leave you in the first place.
Instead, be patient and be consistent in getting your ex to feel good about himself/herself.
Hence this analogy.
You will know your ex will come back to you once you’ve filled his/her cup enough.
Because your ex will start to talk about the relationship on his/her own.
But if your ex still hasn’t talked about your relationship, then it means you haven’t done enough to fill your ex’s cup.
So focus on filling your ex’s cup consistently, and be patient!
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